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*eriXkamakaze
writes:Me and my boyfriend are very sexual, yet I think that is all he thinks about now. I enjoy the sex, but it is gettin boring. We are stickin to the missionary position and I'm startin to lose feelin of it. He isn't "big down there", yet I love him so I don't wanna lose him cuz he isn't makin me feel completed sexually. We are both 16, and I don't know what to do to make our sex more pleasurable for me. He enjoys he and cums almost everytime... but I have yet to orgasm... help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): your quite young to understand what gets u off! id try talking to ur fella tell him ur deepest fantasy and im sure he'l be ega to please u and do it! tell him what really turns u on and ask him what turns him on and before u no it u 2 will have a better sex life!
my fella of 2 yrs was not that good when we first started going out so one night after a bottle of wine we sat on the sofa and got chatting, then later that night, i realised he listened well and hes perfect now and understand what i want and what i need!
so just give him time to get to no ur body and for u to get to no his!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): You need to break this cycle immediately I know you're young, (perhaps too young for this much complicated sex stuff) but it's already happening, so now it's time to take charge. Too many women fall into the trap of letting the man enjoy himself, while they get nothing. Try suggesting different positions, or simply navigate him into a different one, during sex. If you do it in a sexy way, he'll probably love the diversity. Instead of whining and telling him it's not good for you, simply take charge and say, 'ooh baby, let me be on top for awhile, I wanna work you over..." trust me, he won't say no!! He'll probably love it that you're getting into it, and the added bonus is, you may actually get to have an orgasm. Once he sees you let go he'll be hooked on trying different positions and the variety will keep things from getting stale. Besides,most men really don't want to be selfish in bed -- they really want to please us, they just don't know how. They're much more in tune to their bodies, than yours, but once they figure it out (with your guidance) you will have the time of your life. Have fun! Be safe!!
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reader, keriXkamakaze +, writes (2 April 2007):
keriXkamakaze is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, We are sexual... but we don't have sex too often...
He is... average... I guess... He isn't "big" && he knows it... He told me... I didn't say anything to him... I enjoy the sex... I just want him to be happy && me enjoy it too...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): dude, hes 16. it will grow.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (2 April 2007):
 First of all, at 16 he's probably not real sure just what to do to help you get to an orgasm. I'd seriously suggest that you get him a good book on how a woman's body works and make sure he reads it. Tell him that you are getting frustrated and that it's high time he put in the time and effort to make sex as good for you as it is for him.
With all due respect to my fellow responders, I see no reason why you shouldn't go on having enjoyable sex on a regular basis, once you both get past being amateurs at it and learn to really give and take please to/from one another.
I can relate to his wanting to stay in that one position ... it gives a guy the best penetration and I find it generally the most enjoyable. But he should at least be willing to TRY something different for you, if you ask. And you should be willing to listen to him if he tells you WHY it doesn't work for him.
In summary, I think the real problem here is not the sex, but the communication. We are not born knowing everything there is to know about how to please our partner, nor does this knowledge necessarily come even with daily practice. It comes from open and honest communication, and it sounds like you guys need a bunch of it.
So start communicating. And good luck.
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reader, moomoomoo +, writes (2 April 2007):
 and one more thing, from what i've seen here it is supposedly normal for the girl not to get off, and for girls, its more of a psychological thing, because its harder to physically get you off.
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reader, LittleTwoLegs +, writes (2 April 2007):
 Among other things, I'd simply advise not having sex as much. Ever heard the phrase "a party's not a party if it happens every night?" Because it seems that sex has become pretty regular for the two of you, it's more tooken for granted and not celebrated; you may not be giving your self the proper space or time to truly look forward to it. Try to see how long you guys can go without it, and really *do* try, so that the next time you have sex it will be explosive because it will mean so much after that big time away, whether it's two weeks or two months. Hah, I don't know which is more realistic for you...but good luck!
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reader, moomoomoo +, writes (2 April 2007):
wow, he "isn't very big down there", the biggest insult you can give a guy. make sure he doesn't see this message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): You have just got to tell him that despite the fact that you love him you want to try some new positions whilst having sex. Just be honest with him at the end of the day. Tell him want you like.
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