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writes:Hi all :)Over the past 2 weeks me and my boyfriend have been arguing quite a lot. I've been putting it down to not seeing him as often as i want to, but he doesnt agree. We've been arguing over so many things, he thinks i dont love him, he thinks i'm going to cheat on him when i go on holiday, he doesnt trust me. I dont know what to do, i've told him i wont cheat on him, i love him and would never cheat, its low and disgusting. I've also told him he's the one, because i genuinally think he is. Over the past week he's been going out A LOT more than usual. We normally speak i'd say 15-17 hours a day. A lot, i know. Thats how close we was, but over the past week we've spoke about 5 hours a day, which is a dramatic change, and its hurt so much. I've tried to explain how im feeling to him, but he throws it in my face, blames it on me, and makes me feel bad. So the other day, i woke up to a text saying 'maybe we should have a break'.. this really upset me because this now means our relationship is on the line, i dont think he cares about me, wants me, loves me no more. All he does now is go out from 9am-11pm, i never get to speak to him, he doesnt make an effort to talk to me. I dont know what to do, i dont want to lose him. Please help :(
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Ignore him. Dont talk to him for the 5 hours a day. Just go out, do anything but talk to him. Till he talks sense or how he misses you or something. Ignoring him will either make him see how much he wants to talk to you and will make an effort or make him see he doesnt want you. Either way is good for you. If he leaves DO NOT beg him back. It will push him away more. Seem independant and not so clingy, this is probs what is a problem in your relationship. If you "lose" him. Its a good thing for you. You dont deserve him at all.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 July 2010):
I think that he's the problem here, and I think that you can do so much better. Any time a guy blames you for everything, you can be sure that you're to blame for very little. To be fair, it sounds like you both got into too much too soon. But he is coming across as a guy who's just not worth your time. The speaking time is not the issue (5 hours a day is still a long time to talk). But the way he blames you for everything, and the way he constantly accuses you of cheating is a sign that he has some insecurity issues. I think losing him is the very least of your worries, and I think you might need to take steps to end it. Please don't settle for a guy who just doens't care. This guy is not the one.
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