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*athryn Bradshaw
writes:I have been with my partner for two years. We love each other very much. Throughout our relationship we always seem to get into arguments that sometimes just get out of control, it always seems to start because of something he says and the fact that I over react, the arguments just seem to push us apart and prevents him from wanting to move in with me. I am not sure whether we should not be together anymore because we simply can't get on for any length of time. I am just at a loss of what to do and whether or not just to end it, thanks Kate Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): You can be compatible, it is just your both are speaking different languages. Yes, you both speak English, but you speak from your own personal experience, not connecting with the other persons reality. I think you both need to slow it down, one talks and the other tries to repeat in their own words until they get it.
I've noticed that I see something important in a discussion, my wife has her own. I try to get her to see and understand my side; she says she does, but when she repeats what I was trying to say, I don't get that she does understand.
Communication can be hell!
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reader, oroberi  +, writes (19 May 2008):
My advice is this, if your fights are getting more and more out of control, your communication is going to hades. You can try to fix that or you can give up on it.
As said previously that choice is yours.
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reader, les +, writes (19 May 2008):
http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Alchemy-Mind-Heal-Heart/dp/0609809032/
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Hi
You are not compatible. Weather you go for counselling and maybe sort it out, it could work, who knows. Could be worth a try. But a lot of us have been in a similar situation, and it ends up nasty and you inevitably split. I guess it looks like you are putting off the inevitable really.
Sometimes we clash with people, if you are arguing over petty things, it tends to mean the relationship has come to an end.
Only you can decide if you want to move on though. Ive been in a 9 yr relationship with VERY few arguments, and a 2 yr one with sack loads! I know which one i preferred.
C xxxxx
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