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writes:3 months ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and he was my first and only. The other night I went out and saw a guy who I had gone on a date with once to a resturant. I will name this guy, guy B. Guy B had wanted to continue going out with me but I turned him down to pursue a relationship with my ex boyfriend. But me and "B" still remained friends and spoke to each other from time to time. I was out at a lounge when I ran into him(B).Guy "B" immediatly gave me his new number and seemed like he really was interested.he had liked me before and i felt like we were picking up where we had left off. He really seemed like he wanted to keep in touch. He was being sweet and sincere and I know this sounds corny but he was actually being really romantic. At that point we went and got more drinks.We kissed each other and he felt like the kiss was too rehearsed so he said he wanted to kiss me again when I least expected it! We both drank quite a bit. My friend left me there with him(B) and his friend. They dropped off my other friend at home, at this point I was really drunk and so was he. His friend I guess decided that I should be dropped off by guy "b" so he took us to his house so "b" could get his car. Instead "b" invited me into his friend's house (his friend wasnt there) and we sat on the couch. He pulled me closer to him and we began kissing. Eventually we did it and everything was fine, he was being sweet while we were doing it. At one point I got mad at him for something and he pulled me closer to him and apologized. And when we finished and he was taking me home he was being nice. I know for a fact he enjoyed himself...The next day i woke up feeling really ashamed. Im not the type of girl that has one night stands I lost my virginity when I was almost twenty and had only been with one person my whole life. Guy B new all of this. I called him the next day...he didnt answer nor did he return my call. At that point I felt so guilty and ashamed and disgusted with myself. I remembered that he had not used any protection. I texted him that we should talk.He texted that he felt terrible for what he did to me and that he was engaged. Im not heart broken or anything like that but I feel like I have been used! I dont know what to do or what to tell him. I dont want to call him a million times or text him but I am really upset by what happened and all this guy can say is I feel terrible. Am I overreacting? Or do I have a right to be mad?? I know for sure now that he is in a private relationship and is supposed to get engaged next month. But Im really disgusted. I cant stop thinking about it and I feel so ashamed that I allowed this to happen. I also feel like he hinted that he was interested and really was taken. I dont know what to do. I feel so sick and Im really ashamed!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Well, you're in the one-night-stand club now. Most people in there have a few stories like this one. Or more than a few.
Don't expect this guy to feel bad or change his ways no matter what he said in words. Actions are all that matters. You got played, plain and simple.
Don't even be surprised if he takes another shot at bonking you again at some future date, too. He will sound just as sincere and he'll be just as full of it.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (14 July 2009):
we all do mistakes Darling..just release it and let it go for heavens sake !!and remember to keep your mouth shut ,be more cautious nest time and never do it again
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 The only person who should feel ashamed is him. Even though he was drunk when it happened he did set the scene before it got to that stage. What you did was get too drunk in the company of an unscrupulous person and that is not your fault. In this case it was his responsibility not to take advantage of the situation but he did. His behaviour would devastate his partner if she knew and does not fare well for his future marriage. No need to feel sick or ashamed anymore you are not at fault but one would hope that when he next sleeps with his partner he feels equally bad. Chalk it up to experience and be careful who you get drunk with.
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