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*yansmiles
writes:Hi there,I have been talking to this guy online for five months and we have been talking on the phone and texting for the past couple of months. The time has come for me to meet him and he seems offish now.im traveling from another city to visit him. We have said some very lovely things about each other and he asked me how i honestly felt and i told him. Then i asked if he felt the same and he said that he did, the sex talk came recently and it was clear that we both want the same thing as well, but over the past couple of days he has been a little busy for me. Sure he is studying but in my own insecure way i think its him telling me its over, could he be insecure and as afraid about this as i am? is he genuinely busy? or is he trying to brush me off? The feelings we both have seem to be very strong and I just dont know what to do? any help?
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (4 March 2010):
If he's still in school... and FINALS or something like that... are underway. He could indeed be too busy at the time. Just keep talking/texting - nothing stalkerish... just your normal frequency. You could add into your texts something like... 'I know you're busy but it would REALLY be nice to hear from you... just to say hi or something' - this kind of statement does two things... it acknowledges that he might be 'busy' or apprehensive... but it also underlines your need to communicate with him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 March 2010):
Only a little more time will tell. It might be that when you had sex he had got what he wanted. But it might just be a bit too early. I would suggest continuing to talk to him, but clearly if he continues to pull away then you need to think. But it's only been a few days, not a few weeks, so give him more time and have patience.
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