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writes:So I have been talking to this guy for two months. We met through work. We were both to shy to ask each other out, so my co worker hooked us up. We immediately hit it off. We spent so much time together...movies, museums, pool hall...we just had so much fun with each other. We even spent 4 hours one night in a parking lot just talking about life. We never talked about we we wanted our relatonship to go..but clearly it was going somewhere...we were holding hands and spending way too much time together. Then one night we started to get intimate...we had our first kiss...and sex was about to take place...but I said no and he said he would not make me do anything that I did not want to do...we kissed after that and cuddled...that night scared me so bad, because we never talk about our relationship. Well I have not seen hom since then and it has been over 2 weeks. He calls me still, but not as frequently as he used to...I don't want to think he just wants me for sex. He does not seem like that type of guy. I know he has a lot going on in his life right now with work and school...he just started a masters program..so I know he is super busy and I don't want to overwhelm him...but I am so confused! I really like him and I knpw he likes me, because he told me he did...I just don't know if he feels as strongly as I do. Do I just let things remain as they are...take it slow...or move on?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
Hmm, well it could be that he was trying to use you. Maybe you should ring him and see if everything's okay. Do take this slowly, whatever he says. But talk to him first and see what he has to say,
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reader, CupidLover  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 I was going through the same thing you're going through,and still am but things are going smoothly.
First,you are clearly wondering and confused where things are going with him,and i believe you still should get some kind of closure from him; because after all, u were pretty close and you have the right to know where it goes from there.
It's not fair on you to dwell or wonder whats going on.
So i say, you ask him casually if you guys can go out for a coffee or something and talk about where things are going. Keep it casual and non-emotional aswell..that way there isn't pressure or tension between the two of you
Ask him where do things go from here? move on or will there be something official,otherwise you can move on..he just needs to give u the green light. You're still young and there are more fish in the sea...so goodluck and hope that helped! :)
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