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writes:Alright, well I met a guy online. We have been talking back and forth for about a month. This has involved texting, emailing, and talking on the phone. We had made plans to do something this past Sunday together. Unfortunately, Sunday morning I got a text from him saying that he had to go into work and couldn't make our outing. He is a marine so I understood. That night, Sunday night, he texed me asking when we could do something again and we set up to get some lunch today. He was supposed to figure out where we were going to go eat and get back with me, that was the plan. Monday night, I texed him and talked to him back and forth for about a hour and he never mentioned meeting on Wednesday and if he had found somewhere to eat. I didn't mention it either figuring that he had Tuesday to do that as well. Yesterday, Tuesday, he didn't contact me at all, which I thought was strange since he ended our texting on Monday night with "Talk to you tomorrow." I finally texted me about 10pm, just wanting to know if we had plans still to meet today and he never replied. I still have had no contact with me since Monday night. What is up with him?
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Try giving him some time. Maybe he's nervous to meet you because he's afraid to change the dynamic of your relationship. Just let him come to you, as I'm sure he will. Try to be a good listener and maybe he'll give you the reason for his nervousness. Let him know that you want to meet him in person in a friendly way without being pushy. If you get frustrated it will only delay things so try to be upbeat and think about the reasons that you both like each other. Good luck an I hope that you will write us back to tell us of a happy ending soon! Have fun!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (17 December 2009):
 You met him online and haven't met him in person yet. You don't know anything about him, and no one here can tell you what's up with him. We could all go on a wild goose chase wondering and speculating about this man but chances are, no one will give you the real answer. He could be married, he could have a girlfriend, he could be seeing two other girls at the same time...who knows.
One thing that I do know is that if a guy is truly interested and is really genuine about it, he would have made plans to meet you. He would have replied to you and he would have been in contact himself.
What you need to do is not put so much thought and effort into this. If he is who he says he is and he is genuine about everything (and something came up so he was unavailable) he will be in touch. If not, it's not your loss at all...it just means you avoided someone who you don't need anyway.
So leave him be and let him contact you if he wants. The other thing to do would be to stop texting and ask for a phone call. Texting gets you nowhere.
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reader, Garm +, writes (17 December 2009):
It's only been one day. Maybe his phone is dead. Maybe he left it somewhere. Maybe he's busy. He will get ahold of you when he can--if he's going to.
If he hasn't responded after a week, something's wrong, and move on.
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reader, cute angel +, writes (17 December 2009):
 well i think he seems to feel the connection with you and is pretty nervous about meeting you
after all u have just been talking on the phone all this while,apparently he thinks nothing should go wrong on this very special date..
i think u shld send him a text saying no matter what happens after the meeting you still want to be friends.u know more like an assurance.i think he would be fine then
all the best hun:)
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