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writes:My 13 year old friend hasn't had her first kiss yet, but all of her other friends have. She thinks there's something wrong with her. I want to help her but I dont know wat to say to help her understand its okay and that her time will come. When I try to help her she doesnt belive me and I get nowhere.Can anyone give me a convincing way to explain things to her?[Edited by moderator to show intent of question.] Reply to this Question
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reader, Blackbird86  +, writes (14 October 2009):
I remember being that age and dying to have someone I liked kiss me. No matter what you tell her she will probably continue to compare herself to all the other friends and people she knows that are kissing and cuddling.You can be supportive and tell her that you understand. A lot of time people like your friend just need to get the thoughts that are bothering them out of their head. But remind your friend that so many guys are bad kissers (and this is sooo true) and that she is probably lucky that she hasn't had to suffer bad kisses. And, tell her that the kisses that are the most heart pounding, are the ones that come from someone who you really respect and like. So, by waiting, she is really doing herself a great great favor.Hope that helps a little. Love xoxox
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reader, Delboy69  +, writes (14 October 2009):
I agree with Turtle in a way.
It should be special but let's be honest here - your not waiting for superman to turn up.
1. Do you like him ?
2. Does he like you ?
3. If answer to 1 and 2 is yes then kiss goddammit !
No tongues, take your time and be soft n gentle with the ladies lovely lips - I still kiss the way I learned to when I was 13/14 and I've never had a complaint.
PS - If your a girl, then print this out for your BF
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reader, turtle86 +, writes (14 October 2009):
 Just tell your friend plain and simple...
"Your first kiss should be with someone special and she shouldn't waste it on just some guy. That kiss you should always remember for the rest of your life."
Her time will come and tell her to save it someone that is special for her. Most people don't even have their first kiss until the later years of highschool and it seems fine for them. Tell her not to worry and that time will come around when she finds him/her and they will share that one moment.
She shouldn't be worrying too much about guys because many (not all) guys are just looking to get into your pants and will brag to everyone and probably won't want a relationship unless it involves their dick and your *any one of your holes really will do for hormonale guys.*
So really just tell her she will have her guy and tell her not to give it away to just anyone but someone special. [:
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