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writes:(Ill try and keep it short)Im 15, never had a bf and never kissed. Now I like someone and he likes me back. Im pretty sure he'll be asking me out very soon. But im soooo nervous! Ive never opened up to a guy like that and Im not really sure how to. Plus Ive never had a real first kiss and Ive obviously never french kissed. Just the thought of being in that postition with him makes me want to crawl in a hole. Im afraid Ill either be a flat out bad kisser, not do it right, or make it akward. I kinda want to remain friends to get to know him better, but im afraid he'll loose interest.(im not nervous cuz im unsure about him, hes just "one of those guys" that gives me really bad butterflys lol)Any advice, im going crazy!p.s- the whole coming to you naturally thing, just doesnt cut it for me. Nothing ever comes natural for me. and Ive had this fear for a longgg time
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reader, broken babe +, writes (8 September 2007):
 ah let things happen really my first real boyfriend wasnt till i was 14 and im still going out with him uh actually let me say that again weve been together 9 months and i still get nervous about french kissing but if hes a good guy he shouldnt care and think your innocence is cute it makes you pure unlike those other girls with 3 diffrant boyfriends each week so just let it happen good luck
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (8 September 2007):
You are young. Awkwardness is often expected. Don't worry, and don't over think things. He'll probably understand your position. As for the kiss, don't focus on how bad it might be, focus on how you feel. The first kiss, go with the flow. Then as you move forward, add some passion to it.
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reader, merlyn +, writes (8 September 2007):
 ok first, try not to think about being the best kisser on the planet. trust me there isn't one. second, the way an individual kisses is kind of like a signature of who the person is. the first girl i kissed at around 14 yrs old i was nervous and thought i am going to mess this up and sure enough worrying about messing up was the only thing on my mind so when it happend i sure enough messed it up. think of it this way in america kissing is viewed as aprelude to something more, where as in Europe it is a means in which they say hello and no it isn't a kiss on the cheek that they give but it isn't a french kiss either.kissing is something you learn as you go. it isn't lioke they have classes for it lol that woiuld be great for most young guys if they did because then we wouldn't mess it up so much or so often.when the time comes and you will know when its about to happen just relax and take a deep breath let it out and in your mind just say i can do this. believe in yourself to be capable of it and you can achieve anything. try not to give that quick kiss like a peck on the cheek. relax you lips a little bit and gentally lean into it and you will do fine . . . try not to over think this or think that you have to be a great kisser to have a guy like you an individual is more than a kiss and so are you. and if you can't relax just tell him that you are nervous and that you don't want to rush it. also tell him that that isn't a signal for him to grab you and kiss you to make it happen either. communicate what you are feeling to him and if he is understanding it should become a more relaxed atmosphere for the both of you.... and who knows that kiss just might happen after all.
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (8 September 2007):
 well, whether it works for you or not,that's always the best option. The worst thing you can do is plan it out, trust me. It'll never go according to plan. Just be honest with him, always. If you want to wait, and be friends, tell him that. If he asks you out tell him you are interested him, and you like him, but you want to get to know him. The more you get use to him, the easier it'll be for ya.
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