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writes:I'm a 17 year old girl and I've been masturbating for a while now. I mean, I don't know if it's even considered that because all i do is rub my clit till "orgasm". I've just recently tried fingering myself. I only can use one finger because it's so tight on account of the fact that I'm a virgin. I don't feel the same pleasure out of fingering that I do rubbing, but I hear that fingering gives you a more powerful g-spot orgasm rather than just a clit orgasm. I must be doing something wrong with my technique or something because I when I do it I don't have those shaking multiple g-spot orgasms I see in the porn videos.
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reader, StraightTalker  +, writes (1 March 2010):
Ok my first peice of advice is not to compare yourself to porn. Ever! Porn is not in any way real and the orgasms the people have are completely overexaggerated. I am 24 and have been masterbating for years and have been sexually active with a number of pertners for 8 years. I am well read up and very educated on how our bits work, orgasm etc. I have never ever found my g spot and nor has anyone else. Nor have I ever had one of these magical leg shaking multiple orgasms! I have a sex toy (rampent rabbit g pulse) that is designed to find the g spot and even that doesn't work! 75% of us women can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. There is some belief that that our ability to orgasm and the type of orgasms we have is genetic. Some women can't orgasm at all so I suppose we're luckyer than some! I have driven myself mad trying to find my g spot/have better orgasms but I just count myself lucky that I can orgasm at all. The best thing to do is concentrate on the pleasure you DO have rather than what you think your missing out on. I mean these girls that claim to have wonderful orgasms...how do we REALLY know that they are experiancing more pleasure than you or me? They could be exaggerating because they feel like they are abnormal or it could simply be that they INTERPRATE the feeling of orgasm rather that it ACTUALLY being different. I hope this helps, I just wanted you to realise that you're not alone. On the other hand If you DO find a way to have mind blowing orgasms please let me know lol! Just relax, try not to think about it too much and who knows, maybe one day it will just happen! Maybe its because we're TOO worried about orgasm, that's why it doesn't feel as good to us lol! :0)
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reader, lovehelp? +, writes (1 March 2010):
lovehelp? is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJoiney: Your answer was pretty amusing. The g-spot does exist, this I know. And I'm not forgetful when it comes to remembering that I'm supossed to give birth out of my vagina. But thanks anyway?Cuntbreath(wow): I'm quite aware that you used your mouth to arouse girls telling by your username. Problem is, I can't reach my pussy with my tounge and I'm not about to go out and find some random guy to get me off.Faraday: You seem to be the most hopeful so far. I love your username because LOST is amazing. But I think I know more about myself and my pussy then you think. I know how the clit works, trust me. And I know what hole the finger go into and everything, I think it's just the actual movement of the finger I'm having trouble with. And I don't have a boyfriend so I just have to depend on myself for the time being. Plus, I can't fit more than one finger in my pussy because I'm too tight, and that might be the problem also.
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reader, Faraday +, writes (1 March 2010):
 My apologies for repeating myself from a previous answer to a similar question, but I think you need to do this.....
Tonight, when you are alone and not likely to be disturbed, I want you to examine your pussy.
Closely.
Prop yourself up in bed, and part your legs but closes your heels together.
In other words, like frogs legs.
This opens up your pussy nicely, and your heels give you something to prop a mirror on - although you may need a cushion as well.
Get it so that you can get a clear view of your wide-open pussy, and start to expose your clit – it’s at the top of your vagina (not in it) and is covered by a hood.
Take a good look at things so that you can see every detail: how the hood covers it, what you need to expose it, how your lips fold and wrinkle - all that sort of thing.
I bet you haven't had a really good look before?
When you have inspected fully, just try playing with your bits and finding out how to give yourself most pleasure.
Pay particular attention to your clit: the tip is especially sensitive, but it often matters which side you rub, too (You don't HAVE to cum, but you just might!).
Now, open really wide and go in search of your g-spot.
[An area of controversy here. ALMOST all women achieve intense orgasms via g-spot stimulation, but there are some for whom it does very little. Hope that won't be you.]
"Joiney", the g-spot certainly DOES exist, and I have never failed to find it - works wonders, too!
Feel along the front wall of your vagina, inside you, for a roughened area of skin about 1-2 inches in.
Everywhere else will be smooth, and if you are at all aroused it should be a little plump, too.
The plumpness is due to the fact that is a spongy tissue similar to a penis, except that is does not engorge with blood but fills with a fluid upon arousal.
Stimulation of the area really fills the sponge with fluid and can result in ejaculation during orgasm, much to your delight!
It is NOT urine, although it does share the same exit duct. It is colourless, not yellow and has been shown not to contain any urine; so don’t worry, you won’t pee yourself!
This next step maybe a little difficult for you to implement yourself, but easy for the b/f (if you have one?) when he is with you. You should be able to manage it by yourself, but it's much more fun when you are "helped"!
Get him to put a finger or two on your g-spot and apply pressure. Then he can put his thumb on your clit and clamp them together, like pincers.
Retaining this grip, have him pump back and forth with his hand so as to give both clit and g-spot maximum stimulation, and keep going until you reach your goal.....
What you do now is up to you. But whatever you do, relax and have fun - and tell us how you get on.
Faraday.
P.S. If you include anyone else in your activities - BE SAFE; USE CONDOMS ON EVERY CONCEIVABLE OCCASION.
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reader, cuntbreath +, writes (1 March 2010):
I had lots of virgin girlfriends in school . They all had better orgasmes with my mouth than they did with my hand.
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reader, joiney +, writes (1 March 2010):
I have been with quite a few girls and not 1 has found the 'g spot', it has not been proven that it exists either,
if you are having fun otherwise then carry on, and don't think you are too tight, don't forget your vagina is designed to give birth sometime, althought you may not think it now.
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