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writes:Well, I am a 14 year old girl, and emm I was going with this lad he was really sweet and kind but then his friends started saying I was going behind his back seeing another lad, but I wasn't and he sacked me for it and I was so depressed but I got over it very qickly, I got with another lad and then when he found out he wanted me back, I got back with him, but I sacked him because he was seeing another lass. Now I am going back the with lad I was seeing in the first place but the lad who messed me about asked me back out the same day after he found out I was back with him. I said no, but I know now that the only time he wants to know me is when he can't have me! What should I do because he is going out with my best friend and he is only doing it to get back at me?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 What a lesson to have learned so early in life! Yes that is the typical thing for a person to want someone back when they don't have them. It doesn't however mean that they really even want you for sure. It just means they want what they can't or don't have. Then again sometimes they really like you but they are too confused to know what to do.
I would say that since you are jumping back and forth between the two you can't really decide which one you want either. I would suggest that you just don't have either one for a bit. Give yourself time to think it all trough. After all he thinks you messed him around first!
Now that he has done this to you he thinks it evens the score. The thing is if he didn't believe you over his friends, just what kind of relationship do you think you would ever have with him? What you do need to consider is that someone is going to get hurt here if it keeps up. There are not only two in this equation but 4! Now that your friend is involved also you have to make the decision to step back so you don't hurt your best friend. I would say shame on him for going after your best friend when he can't make up his mind if he wants you are not. This really complicates things.
You might consider just staying single until you can finally make a clear decision about whom you really want. Besides you don't want to loose your friendship with your best friend and it could happen over this if she really likes him. The other guy could be hurt because he must like you to have come back,yet you can't choose only him so he is bound to loose again. Take some time and allow yourself time to really think this over. Pray for guidence to make the decision that is best for all concerned.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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