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writes:Hey everyone, This might sound a bit weird but here it goes. My boyfriend an I have been together 2 years now, I used to be good at woman on top sex position but now when we do it he takes ages to cum or I can't go fast enough. I thought maybe it was just he doesn't cum as quickly with certain positions or have I just not got enough stamina for it anymore? I'm 17 and I don't want to become a lazy lover! X Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 In my experience, the cowgirl (woman on top) position is the easiest for me to control my orgasm. I'd suggest changing positions if you get tired. You're not lazy if you're contributing instead of laying around like a dead fish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): no it isnt you'r fault, try not to feel self concious. it is your boyfriend, it is not uncommon fon men to experience such activities. so dont be too hard on yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): try the man on top position and let him sweat it out if he needs sex, i could hold out to cum on a women on top position for ever.
He needs to work on your needsssssssss
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reader, Boris Grushenko  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 There are big individual differences in how people react to what you are doing. For some people (me, for that matter), it even makes a big difference from day to day.
I assume, if you're talking about going fast enough, that you are always sitting straight up.
I would suggest to experiment a bit as this position allows for a lot of variation ... my GF sometimes sits straight up, moving quite fast. On other days, she pushes her pelvis down, moving it as far back and forth as she can (that is, until I almost slip out) slowly. And sometimes she lies flat on top of me (if you're scared of becoming lazy, I believe this is physically very demanding for the women). Sometimes, I open my legs, and there are times she hooks her feet under my knees. And there's a lot more you can do when you are on top (but I'm not going to tell you everything, it's fun to get your fantasy working)
Some positions and movements allow her to reach an orgasm, others don't (ans some are more fun for me).
The longer you will be together, the easier it will be for you to know what pleases you and your boyfriend the most, allowing you to choose the time and intensity of his (and maybe your) orgasm.
Practice makes perfect ;-)
(and may I also suggest you try one of those vibrating rings, they're absolutely gorgeous)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): Relax. Sex should be fun, not a race to the finish line so to speak. If you are stressing over how quickly he comes you can be tense and make it more difficult for both of you. If you are still worried about your sexual ability, perhaps you should try placing a pillow under his hips, or pelvis. This can give a new angle to your position and trying a new angle can be seen as adventurous and more arousing. Plus it might be the difference you are searching for. If you are truly concerned, speak with your man- he is the only one that can tell you how your doing. Perhaps its not that your lacking in this position, but that he has a new position in mind, or that he is intentionally trying not to come in an effort to extend your mutual pleasure.
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