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writes:Hello to anyone who reads this, your time is greatly appreciated.My best friend has broken my heart. For the past 2 years he has lived his own life, studying on the other side of the country. It has been hard staying in each other’s lives, and I always thought I was part of it, but he has made his own friends who he adores and then there’s me. I have made every effort for him, travelled to the other end of the country to see him, even when a close family member was in hospital I still drove the 5 hours to see him, because I loved him. Whatever we had has now vanished. It seems now he does not need me anymore which hurts so much. Sometimes i feel like when he first left, I was his stabilisers, and then when he made his own way, tossed me aside and rode on his own. I don’t resent him for making a new life, in fact I’m really proud, i just never thought anything would come between us. He says he will call me back, which will normally be 3 weeks later at best, or I will want to go out but never wants to compromise, but his other friends are like his life and I’m just a spare part now. I don’t want to give up our friendship but he does not seem to want to want ‘us’ anymore. I feel so hurt; it feels as though I have broken up with my soul mate. I feel betrayed and angry. How could we have so much together, which is now nothing?I went to call him and tell him that it was always me that was there for him, and when they leave him, it would have been me who stood by him. I can’t kill myself anymore trying to stay in his life. Should I just talk it out and get an answer from him?Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): Are you off studying at University as well or are you at home doing nothing, if you're at uni, why don't you concentrate on how much fun you're having.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): thanks, your advise was really appreciated
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 You should be able to express your feelings to him since you two are very good friends and have been for a very long time. Distance changes things and just because he can't be there physically every minute of the day like he use to, it doesn't mean that the relationship have to end.
Make new friends and hang out with them on an everyday thing but make time for your old friend and have fun with him when he comes to town. I hope things work out between you two but remember he is his own person and lives far therefore has to find friends with a closer zip code. Don't lose a friend just learn how to cope with the distance and find your self friends that live closer as well.
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