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writes: So wow, where do i even begin? Okay, so I've dated this guy *Jack* on and off for a couple of months and i recently broke up with him again. He started talking to my friend *Amy* and then i realized how much i missed him and stuff. So we started talking again as well. Then today *Jack* told me that he wanted to be with me and all that crap. So i texted *Amy* and (nicely) said that me and *Jack* we're probably going to get back together. Well she didn't reply back so then i got on myspace and she was signed in. She'd changed her screen name to "*Amy* why does it hurt this bad?!?!" So then i was like, crap! and i sent her a message. this is our conversation (the last one is actually the first one sent by me - so read from the bottom up):FROM: ME *Judy*that's not what happened at all...and idk, but when we talked two days ago he wanted to be with me. it's not like i'm trying to hurt you at all. and he told me that you must have just misinterrpted something he said. it kinda sounds like he's been playing us...and please, don't go blaming this all on me, cause its not. you knew i still liked him, you started talking to him like a day after we broke up, that was a bit inconsiderate if you ask me. OMG! this is stupid! why the heck are we fighting over a boy...???!!!FROM: *AMY*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:35 PMwell i'm not lieing i don't lie that would b wrong especiall right now if i did then i'd basially b a hipocrit he did tell me that the other night idk maybe hes changed his mind cuz of u but he did want to b w/ me and i know that thats what hurts the fact that he did and now at the snap of ur finger hes confused ----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: ME *Judy*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:32 PMi don't know who to believe...----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: *AMY*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:28 PMi'm just upset and pissed ----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: ME *Judy*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:27 PMur crying?.......omg i think i'm going to go insane----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: *AMY*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:26 PMwhat the heck he just said it to me the other night u know i would't make it up omg uhhidk idk i really just uhhh my tears so are not worth this ----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: ME *Judy*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:23 PMso i just asked him and he told me that he never said that to you...----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: *AMY*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:19 PMthats not what hes been telling me omg i freaking HATE this ----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: ME *Judy*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:15 PMdon't freakin act like it was my fault. i told him this exact thing and you can ask *Brad* if you want cause i let him read it, "*Jack* do you really like *Amy*? cause if so i'll get out of your way. i can't do this in between thing because i'm getting to be jealous which i really don't like. you have to choose." and he replied back with, "*Judy* i really want to be with you. i like *Amy* but only as a friend." and that's the truth. i offered to back off, HE called me back.----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: *AMY*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:12 PMidk either i don't think u have any idea how badly me and *Jack* want to b together and i know that for a fact cuz hes told me i've never liked some one this much we just fit together we act just alike----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: ME *Judy*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:10 PMand you have fair reason to be...but idk wat to do.----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: *AMY*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:08 PMnot sure frankly i'm kinda pissed at the moment ----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: ME *Judy*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:06 PMand how do u propose i do that?----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: *AMY*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:06 PMif u feel so bad then y don't u just fix it. ----------------- Original Message -----------------FROM: ME *Judy*Date: Feb 7, 2008 5:03 PMgod...i feel like such a jerk. i screwed everything and everyone up.... So as you can tell, this whole thing is stupid and a huge mess. I'm afraid that it's all my fault (and most likely is) and i just don't know what to do about it. I'm going to call *Jack* as soon as he gets off work and talk to him about it. But he's one of those smooth talker kind of guys...so yeah i'm not sure how well it's all going to turn out. I mean, i really like him but *Amy* is also one of my closest friends. It's weird, cause this just really doesn't seem like the kind of thing *Jack* would do...play us i mean. And i don't want to end up being the crappy friend who's dating the guy who likes someone else. I just don't know what to do and i'm very confused. any help what-so-ever would be sooo helpful. thanks in advance!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 You did the right thing :) You're a good friend, stick with her.
I told you what I thought you should do based on the fact that I've been in a similar situation and I lost a very good friend. I'm glad you did what you did, you're strong, I made the wrong decision, so I'm glad someone got out of the situation the right way :)
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you both so much for your answers. and i've currently decided not to date him. I told him that i really wanted to be with him but that i couldn't do that to my friend. I also said that maybe sometime in the future we could get back together, but that right now is not the time. I can tell he's really hurt, but i honestly feel as if i've made the right decision. Thanks again.
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (8 February 2008):
You should trust your best friend.
If she says that your guy has been hitting on her and saying he wants to be with her, are you just gonna ignore that?
She's your BEST FRIEND. I hardly think that she would make this kinda thing up. Does she normally lie? Does she normally try to get her own way? Would she try to hurt you?
If the answer is no to all of these, you need to get rid of this guy.
You need to tell this guy that you trust your best friend and what she's told you. He's obviously gonna say that he didn't say anything like that to your best friend coz then he'd lose you wouldn't he? It seems to me like he's been playing both of you.
Get rid of the guy, and tell your best friend that this guy's a complete *ss and that neither of you should go near him because he will only tear you best friends apart.
If you continue going out with him, you'll drive a wedge between you and your friend, AND the relationship you are in with the guy will not work because you will be feeling insecure about the fact that he may or may not like your friend.
If you stick with him, you'll lose both of them.
Tell your best friend that you believe her, get rid of this guy and stick together with your friend to get eachother through it and to stay away from him.
Take care xx
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Hi there.
Shaim - what a terrible situation you are in.
There is only one thing i can say about this, and that is that YOU now have to choose who is more important in your life. Your good friend, or this guy?
Once you've established this, you won't have any more questions.
If it is the guy, then fight for him, but remember, you might loose your good friend in the process, and also, that this guy might decide that he doesn't want to be with you after all, and then you would have lost BOTH of them.
If it is your very good friend, the go to the guy, and tell him that his interest in both of you is badly affecting your relationship with your friend, and that you treasure your friendship with her too much for him to mess it up. And then, work at you friendship. This way, your friend will see that you are looking our for both of your 'best interests', and she will reciprocate.
Good luck, let us know what you decide.
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