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writes:Im a 17 year old highschool female senior. i have had a crush on this italian male teacher since i met him last year. he tutored me in math and sometimes we would be alone in his classroom alone with his door closed and i would ask him questions about himself. he always answered and would always smile. one time after school he offered my friend and i a ride home but we said no. so after that i wuld keep going back and sometimes he would walk next to me talkimg as we left da buildimg. oh and b4 summer he wrote in my year book that he found me 2 b a very inquisitive and stylish young lady. so does that mean he likes me more than a student or he just sees me as a kid. oh and sometimes i catch him looking at me but then looks away. he is in his 3os and has a girlfriend. but i still want him im not infatuated with him i just want to know how he sees me. one time when i walked down the hallway stairs i saw him come out his class and he caught my glimpse and for a while both of us were just looking at each other without breaking eye contact until i had to leave. so im curious to know does he like me? oh and for those that dont know inquisitve means curious probing and genuily interested. so was he saying that he likes my curiousity or was he saying that im too nosy when it comes to his personal life
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): To be honest
Its not as if he wrote
"a very sexy and perfect young lady"
then i would be worried.
But in your case dont be
Lemme break it down:
Inquisitive: eager to acquire knowledge, overly interested or curious.
and I think we all know what stylish means.
You probs make a fashion statement, or you jazz up yer uniform in a way, i dont know.
but it doesnt mean anything, stop holdin on to somethin that dont exist.
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reader, reign154 +, writes (20 September 2008):
reign154 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk look 2 anyone i dont LOVE MY TEACHER AND I NEVER WILL!!!!!!. I just said did he like me? Man im asking you for advice and the only thing u can say is that its WRONG and they could lose their job. Look im not retarded i already know the consequences but thats not going 2 stop me from having fun( if i had the want 2 seriously f**ck around with my teach do u actually think i would be on here asking 4 advice. heck no i would have been did it and not cared one bit. But u know i do caer and im just flirting so if u think im obsessed with im im def not. shoot eveyone gets the hots 4 older guys like celebrities and its the same thing. He's a guy so stop throwing that teacher mess out there casue noone likes hearing it. we know what they are. belive me i could do sooo much more if i really wanted him u have no idea what i could be capable of. oh im flirting now and not hinking anything about it but if i was a slut( which im far from) i would push myself on him or wear low cut clothing that shows my breasts. I could rub up on him and not give an absolute da**. But i dont want 2 and dont care. Im 17 and have all the time n the world 2 flirt with or i want wherever i want without paying attention 2 ages and thats just how im casue guys my age bore me and dont give me that thrill of something BAD :)
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (30 August 2008):
 As an unbiased third person, I can see this situation more clearly. I don't know your teacher, but I think the comments in the yearbook are completely above board and innocent, and that he is being friendly fond of you as a person. I feel bad because my answer is going to be disapppointing... but I think that he just wants to be friendly. Even if he were to reciprocate your feelings, then getting involved with hiim would be a very bad idea, for obvious reasons. I know it sucks, but the best solution is just to feel blessed that you have a good student-teacher rapport, and to focus on a guy your age.
I've been in a very similar situation to you, involving one of my professors in college, except that I didn't have a crush on him, I was in love with him... and he was gay (nothing will induce me to mention his name, because it's very "bad form" to "out" people) so I had to settle for his friendship.
There's nothing wrong with liking Italians... I have an Italian friend (he's 35 though, sorry) and I've noticed that culture is warm, and passionate and guys can be friendly and give compliments.. they don't have all this political correctness that we have in USA. I am super attracted to Mexicans (another latin culture!) because that culture is warm, passionate and loving (in contrast, most of the guys where I live are very cold and uptight). Maybe you could study abroad in Italy and meet someone there.
That would really impress them, if you could learn a little of the language. There is a very excellent language school in Siena, Italy, called "Universita per Stranieri" (foreigners' university) for people who want to learn to speak Italian, or teach Italian.
http://www.unistrasi.it/pages/1.asp
In bocca al luppo (good luck) :-)
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (30 August 2008):
 Hi Hunny
To be quite honest I'll answer this question just as I answer all question about teacher student crushes..This man is a teacher he could loose his job if he did anything with a student not only his job but probably his girlfriend as well, He is taken simple as that, His job is to educate you and not to encourage any kind of sexual overtones...You may want him love but my advise to you is to leave him alone and go for someone who is not taken and would not get into major trouble and loose his job.... inquisitive can also mean unduly or inappropriately curious; prying. Hunny I dont mean to sound harsh but this is a no! no! yea we all at some point have though one of our teachers fit, But thats it it goes no futher and thats how it should be love TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (30 August 2008):
 Italians are beautiful, intriguing people. I'm sure he's no different.
I'm not going to tip toe around the edges. It's wrong. He's your teacher and he could lose his job if anything happened.
It may seem worth it, but in the long run it wont be. You'll be seen as the whore and he'll be seen as a pervert, no matter what your ages.
I doubt whether his comment of your being inquisitive was said about the private sessions you shared, reports have to be professional no matter what sordid secrets you posess inside and so most probably meant you're good in class at asking interesting questions about the topic and questioning the methods of working. Nothing more.
You may find him looking at you but of course, it could just be pure coincidence. I think you need to stop gawping at him all the time and you may notice that he's not looking at you any more. I think you need to get you act together, move on and stop chasing a man that has a girlfriend and could be double your age.
Any way. I doubt whether he would pursue it even if he did like you. You're not worth his job. Sorry. It sounds harsh, but the truth is brutal and hard to accept sometimes. The quicker you accept it the quicker you can move on and chase an Italian your own age that happens to be single.
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