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writes:So,My Bf just broke up with me ... due to his family issues (they didn't like where I was from or what religion I was ...etc) ... When he left he told me, he will think about it again and he will get back to me, but for now, he needs to be alone and focus on himself. It has been over a week now, and no phone call .. he didnt show up ... nothing. I am not calling him. everyone is telling me to leave him alone for now and let him miss me and show him, I dont need him. We both stayed on facebook etc "In relationship" .. but we deleted our names out of each others profile .. he did this first .. so i just fallowed. I know he doesnthave anyone else, because his sister keeps me informed..but I dont know what to do.I am trying to focuse on myself but its very hard, because the only thing i really want is to be with him. we were together everyday sicne the day we met. and we spend every weeekend together ... I just dont know . should i contact him or wait until he contacts me? I am so confused I know this man loves me .. and I know I love him dearly. We are both in our mid 20es. Live very close to each other and share the same friends. Its very hard.Any help will help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Just wait for him to contact you. I know it's hard, but it's the best thing. HE broke up with YOU and said he needs time to think about things. Well, I say do what you need to do on your own and consider dating other people. If and when he wants you back, he will let you know and at that point, you can decide whether or not you still want to be with him. If he broke up with you because of his family, it is unlikely he will pursue a longterm (ie marriage) relationship with you and if he does, you will be in constant turmoil having to deal with his family. It's a lot of food for thought, but my opinion is to let him contact you, but don't sit by your phone waiting for him to do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): ok for a start i think that you really need to take a step back and look at this situation. this man says he loves you but he has decided to let his family make his decisions for him. its not up to them to choose his partner.if you love someone it should be simple and i know things seem a mess right now but i think that you should listen to your friends. maybe he doesnt love you the way you think and has used family as an excuse.
there is a old saying if you love something so much let it go and it will come back dont and you'll smother it
hope everything goes well xx
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reader, babewithbrains  +, writes (30 August 2008):
 What religion are your boyfriend's and parents? I would leave him be, and maybe, if you are sure you don't want to move on, go and visit him. If he loves you he will tell you but he needs to be encouraged. Parents only want the best for their children, so maybe they got the wrong impression when they met you. You shouldn't have deleted him on Facebook because that makes it seem like you don't care about him.Jellyxxx
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reader, Joey 2008 +, writes (30 August 2008):
Hi, sorry to hear what has happened. The same thing happened to me and my gf just over a month ago, we are still having problems, i think the best thnig is to give him some space but also let him know u are here for him and that you love him very much, this helped alot with me although we are still together we are not seeing or talking, good luck x
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