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*llecanhelpyou
writes:Okay well, I think my 'straight' friend is a lesbian. I'm absolutely okay with homosexuality as I have many bi/lesbian friends. But this is different. I don't want to confront her or anything as it's kind of a touchy topic, I can't really go up to her and say hey are you gay? I think she might be because everytime she comes round for a sleepover we share a bed (as I do with many of my friends) and at some point in the night she will try to... Finger me. She stayed for the night last night and she did it. It can sometimes get quite heated for her and I think she pretends to be asleep when she does it because if someone walks past my bedroom door she stops for a bot and then starts again. I haven't confronted her because I am a teenager and on the ferge of finding out wether I am gay/straight whatever and so... I sometimes quite enjoy it :P I know she has a boyfriend and it would be so humiliating for her if anyone found out so that's why I'm asking you for help.Thanks :)
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (14 April 2011):
What you really need to do is tell her, gently, not in an antagonistic way, that what she's doing is wrong. It doesn't matter if you like it or not, what she did to you IS sexual assault. If you were on a date with a guy and he suddenly started unwantedly rubbing you there, would you not consider that date rape? It's really bad behavior for her to be engaging in, and if she doesn't stop doing it (not only to you, she may be molesting other girls), she could very well end up in jail, her name plastered in the media next to the words "child molestation."
Be gentle with how you tell her, but you really need to tell her. If you're her friend and want what's best for her, you'll warn her that what she's doing is wrong and could land her in a whole lot of trouble.
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reader, Ellecanhelpyou +, writes (13 April 2011):
Ellecanhelpyou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha thank you :) I wasn't going to start any relationship with her but I'll try to say something about it, thanks :) x
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Well, it sure sounds like she's at least bi. She's definitely making the moves on you, and using "sleep" as her cover up. Kind of like when people drink a lot, make a move and if it's not reciprocated, they can blame the booze. Well, she's chosen sleep instead so if you're not into it, she can say, "I was asleep, I don't remember at all!".
So, you need to make it clear. If you address it during the daytime "hey, you get like, really touchy-feely in your sleep and I'm pretty sure your boyfriend wouldn't dig that at all", she'll get the idea that you're not into it.
Maybe she'll open up and talk to you about what's going on.
It seems like you are into it, but she's got a boyfriend. Just because you're female doesn't mean this isn't still cheating. You should probably avoid getting into a messy situation and getting a lot of people hurt by starting a sexual relationship with her. Good luck, sweet!
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