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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been hooking up with this guy for a year with him not wanting a relationship...we've been through ups and downs and he always came back to me. but recently he saw me at a bar dancing with a guy and text me sayin how much hotter he was then that guy...then when i text him to ask him when we were goin to hang out he said.."you sure your boy toy won't mind?" then when he came to see me he brought up the other guy again and he saw a bruise on me thinking that i did something with the guy i was dancing with..he storms out of my house then afta a month i see him at the bar again and he comes up to me and makes up with me in front of my friends...then recently i argued with him again and he started saying how he never had feelings for me and he brought up that guy just to break my chops but i don't believe him. could it be that he's acting this way cuz i hurt him? and cuz of jealousy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): ok so now i look at his myspace page and he put a freestyle song that's about a guy getting hurt by a girl. i'm wondering now if it's just a coincidence or if there's a hidden message behind it and it bothers me cuz i know he cares but maybe cuz like they say about capricorns and he is one...they tend to hide their feelings...i'm so confused!
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reader, LiLLy-aNnAbELLe  +, writes (29 August 2007):
Yes i think that this guy is hurt by what you did.He knows that you dont want anything serious with him but he may want something serious with you.He sees what you did as a form of cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): first of all,
hooking up as in behaving like being in a relationship, though it is not officially one?
most people would think that girls get jealous a lot easier than guys would, but thats not necessarily the case. it could be that he's being jealous, though he does not want a relationship, it does not mean he has no feelings for you.
it could be he had been hurt, or he just does not want to be in a relationship, many people like myself are afraid to be in one. it could be due to past experiences, or fears, insecurities, afraid of burdens, too much responsibilities, a lot of other factors too, for this i cant say much, only you will know.
what he said about him having no feelings for you, could be words out of anger, disappointment, etc.. or it could be real, again, i cant really tell because only you yourself understand your 'relationship', it is not easy for others to understand the situation, because there can be many reasons.
what i can also say is that, such 'relationships', are usually very complicated, because since you are not his girlfriend, does that mean he can still go out and date other girls, or could you do the same? would you get jealous?
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