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writes:Hi everyoneMy problem is my younger sister. She is 16 at the minute and turns 17 on the 1st of january. The problem is is that she won't stop stealing from me. She steals money, clothes, makeup, shaving razors, beauty products..basically everything nice that I buy for myself. It's gotten so bad that my dad put a padlock on my door. This stopped it for a while but now I can't even go to the bathroom next door without locking my door and carrying my keys. At the minute she is stealing my underwear. She takes it out of the dryer. I do my own washing and drying and ironing and she catches it when I'm not checking on it. It's really upsetting to me as I work hard for the nice things I have. All my underwear is for my boyfriend. I wear nice underwear for him but she is always taking them. When she takes them I just don't want to wear them anymore. She doesn't work because she is born idle so takes things from other people because she can't buy them herself. She does get spending money from my mum but she just blows all her money on cigarettes and god knows what else.Am I being silly here? I get really upset when I see a pair of my underwear dirty on her bedroom floor. When I ask her about it she just says that she couldn't find a pair of hers that she liked so she took a pair of mine. She just doesn't care and my mum lets her get away with it. My dad works away offshore so he can't be here to tell her whats she doing wrong but she wouldn't listen anyway.When I do confront her about it she says that she always sees me wearing her underwear and this is so untrue its unbelievable. All my underwear is brand new and has been seen by my boyfriend so he would know if what I was wearing was someone elses. She seems to have convinced herself that I wear hers too and she even specifically talks about certain pairs of knickers. She is completely insane!I really am cracking up here as I can't have anything for myself. I work really hard for the nice things I have and she does nothing for anything she has. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do or is anyone going through the same thing as me? Personally I think wearing someone elses underwear is absolutely disgusting unless its your partners. Do you agree?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2012): Ugh omfg so annoying my cousin steals everything from me and hides it!! Like what are you doing? Do you go to work everyday or do I!? I find my under shirts in a pair of her sweat pants hidden that's not even normal! Normal people don't do that! She steals all my perfume and when I ask do you know where my perfume is or do you know where my shirt is? No I have no idea Where it could be. Yeah okay it's hidden somewhere you sick girl! Like not even normal it's very aggravtting. I had to go buy a lock box last week because I couldn't take it anymore!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): Ugggh, I know what you mean! My brother used to always steal my clothes in the past, making it smell like sh!t. I found out that the only way to fix this were to hide one if his things every time he stole something. For example, he steals one of my shirt; I'll hide his favorite item/clothing in a difficult dirty spot that he can't find. If you're going to try this method and your sister still steals your things knowing what will happen, try using public embarrassment next if you care enough about your clothes. Whenever your sister brings her friends over or someone who is important, embarrass her by telling her to stop stealing your underwear or whatever in front of them. This will show her that you mean business and that you'll do whatever it is to make her stop stealing your clothes. Even if doing this will also embarrass yourself, at least it will stop your sister from stealing a bit. Oh crap, I just realized the OP's post was written in 2007....lol w/e
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): My sis is 4 years older than me and steals EVERYTHING!!! even when I catch her its like whatever. She doesnt even care. 2 days agoy my mum gave me two 10 pound notes for the rest of the summer hols which i needed to go on a birthday party (ice scatin, meal and cinema.) now had to cancel cause i cant afford to pay 4 1/2 my meal and scates. My sis was aware of this and that I was savin up 4 a new phone. I tried beggin, threatenin and god knows wat else it wont work. She doesnt even care. I cant tell my parents cause shed hit me (she has before) she treats me like cr@p all the time I am her own personal slave get me a drink, bring me my fags and all that jazz I am sick of it wat should I do?
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reader, agentrex  +, writes (30 April 2008):
omg i know how you feel im 18and my dads girlfriend is 15 and does this too meshe isnt even my own bloodits disgustingi have had to throw away almost all my undies like 423897349875 times...its doesnt stop there either she steals every thing from chocolate bars that my boyfriend buys me to be sweet to m7y clothes and money mind you this girl is 4 sizes bigger than me and stretches things out =/and when i catch her its always oh i didnt know this was yoursyeah because it wasnt located in my room or anything dumb@$$ or oh so and so just poped up with it im sorry i didnt know bull.but i cant even put a lock on my doors because you enter my room through a sliding glass door.she always waits until no one around or everyone is slepping to do it toi mean she is on probation for stealing from beals and her mother has no problem with it and lets her go out and smoke and drinkand she is only 15 and been with 6 guys in the past monththats why i throw my undies away.she even asked me what i would do if she tried to get with my bfwhore much.and when i catch her stealing from me her mother does nothing mean while my dad is like wtfwhy arent you doing anything about your kidthen they start fighting.i cant leave my house because of her but i also cant stand to be here because of her. needles to say a lot of my stuff comes up missing =/ sorry for ranting by the way
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): i also have a little sister who likes to swap clothes of mine due to the fact that we are both size a size 12 and a 34C bra but even thow we are the same zize in the underweaar department i would kill her if she even dare wear my underwear 1 because as you say their is something a girl should have for herself and 2 having a sister that shares underwear is just wrong io thing u really need to sort this problem out
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): Your so right! And i know exactly what you mean. My sister always does this. And it makes me feel invaded because everything she took from me is in my room. And whats the point of even having a room if your sister is stealing stuff from it anyway, right? If i was you i would go up to her when she isnt busy and tell her everything your feeling. And maybe steal her stuff once in a while and leaving her stuff in random places around the house. I did this with my sister and it worked. It didnt work right away, but if you keep reminding her how you feel she'll get the picture. I hope i helped. And good lucky.-M.
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reader, kargrav6 +, writes (31 December 2007):
Well for one your right she needs to stop taking things from you. I don’t want to call her a thong thief but wow. From my guess she probably likes the kind if "sexy underwear" you buy... she's probably to embarrass to go to a store and buy her own. Girls her age usually don't like buying thongs, bras, Midol, pads nor tampons, don't embraces her any more next time you go to buy some underwear ask her if she'd like you to pick her up some lady lingerie even if she says no get her some anyway, she'll have her own so she'll leave your shit alone. Then buy a small box w/ a lock to keep personals love letters, razors, special makeup, rings kinda like a vanity box you go into the bathroom its small enough to travel w/ you. Let her know that she can borrow things from you just not personals make sure she knows she must ask first and return the item in reasonable timing and in the same condition it was when she first got it. And you can limit her to only borrowing certain belongings and only a number at a time i.e. only 2 shirts at a time. It's important to share with her but also she needs limits. I know both sides I have 9 sis and bros.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): you are totally right. Rock on girl!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): So, I have a sister just like yours. She steals my stuff all the time and my mother does nothing about it. Shesays it her friends when i catch her with anything of mine. I have yelled at her stolen her things to show her how it feels to not have something you want to wear. Nothing has worked for me. I am 1 and my sister is 15. Let me know if you figure something out that works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): i am a 14 year old girl and cant afford expensive underwear, but my older sister who has a good job lets me wear hers, but we are very close, its certainly not disgusting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just went back downstairs after I posted that last comment and my mum shouted for my dad to sort his daughters out. Basically I got a bollocking for even suggesting that they pay for me to use the laundrette and then I got a further bollocking as they screamed at me "what do you want me to do about it?" my sister never does anything she is told and they've accepted this. I hate being at home but when I go over to my boyfriends house I get into trouble for not spending time with them. We are so disfunctional. I love my boyfriends family. He has a little sister and she is a just a normal teen and his parents are lovely and when they argue its over the tv programme thats on, not whats been stolen or the latest phone bill. I really don't know what to do but I can't take much more of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy dad came home tonight from his big trip and I saw my sister was wearing some of my underwear. I asked her what underwear she was wearing and she smirked and walked out of the room. I went after her and sure enough I saw she had mine on. I asked her how the hell she got it, and she said that she took it from my clean laundry. I couldn't believe it. It's gotten to the stage now that I can't even wash my clothes! I was so upset. I screamed at her that I pay £30 a week rent and I wash and dry my own clothes and she does nothing at all and she gets away with it.
I would never want to wear any of her underwear or clothes because they don't belong to her. She borrows a lot of her friends clothes and then she ends up wearing them all the time. Plus my sister is a bit of a whore and I would rather die than wear them as I would probably catch something.
Whenever I shout about this my mum just goes oh not again and she says nothing. I ask her why she doesn't do anything and she says what can she do? She says she can't do anything.
Tonight we were all talking about my sisters new boyfriend and my sister started slagging mine off. Saying that at least her boyfriend has a six pack, and doesn't look gay. I was so hurt by this but my mum was just laughing on the sofa saying that she was just winding me up. She kept really saying awful things about my gorgeous boyfriend and it really upset me but I was just being "wound up" apparently.
Theres not even a chance of me moving out until next september and even then I don't know if I can afford it.
Help guys. She's such an awful person I just don't know what to do. She turns 17 on jan 1st but she acts like a 12 year old.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Ask your bf for a drawer at his place; keep the sexy stuff there. Buy some granny underwear and keep it at your place.
And I'm with A Cappella -- start dumping her stuff on the floor after you've kept it for a while. When she complains, you can innocently say "Oh, you were wearing my stuff, so I thought we were sharing."
It does knock you off the high road, but maybe she'll get the point when HER stuff goes missing...
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (7 November 2007):
 You're not crazy; you have a legitimate complaint. I can't believe your Mom is doing nothing about it -- no wonder your sister does this (she gets away with it!)
When my step-sister began stealing stuff from my sister, she bought a safe and started keeping it there. But you've already got a lock on your door, so that's not going to help.
The only thing I think you can do is to say at dinner, so that there's no mistake, that since everything in the house is community property, you're going to start using your sister's stuff too. Then go through her closet/jewelry box and get her stuff. (Don't actually wear it; just put it in a drawer in your locked room so she doesn't have access to it when she wants it.) Do this a lot. Be ruthless. If/when you "return" it, make sure it ends up on her floor.
Maybe when she gets a taste of her own medicine, she'll stop.
In the meantime, keep everything behind your locked door and start doing your laundry at a public laundromat. And save to move out.
Good luck hon.
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reader, samohir  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Why dont you try to speak to her and if she wants a pair of nice underwear maybe Buy it so she would stop...
Seems she is bit jelaous of you
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): I have a sister, couple years diffence. We do steal the odd things from each other,had big arguments over it but nothing this bad! If I did that to my older sister she would properly hit me! You need to yell at her, get through to her somehow, tell her its disgusting she wants to wear your knickers!
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reader, nadia_luvhurts  +, writes (6 November 2007):
omg!! ur sister is totally annoying!! dya know wat i wud probably do in dis situation?? myb i'd do the same thing to her.. or else, i dunno.. but please.. do sumting dude.. u can't just giv up to dat brat..
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