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writes:I'm in high school and my boyfriend has been out of high school for a few years. I'm still virgin but he doesn't know it. We have only been dating for about a month. We have talked about our past and he has had more experience with other girls before me. So my question is. Should I tell him I'm a virgin? Is it true that guys usually just leave a girl who gives it up too soon? He is my second boyfriend. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2012): *Sigh*
You know, things would just be much more simple if teenage girls just dated a guy who is her age and is in the same situation as her, rather than all this-
"Will it put him off because I'm a virgin and he's not"
or
"I'm afraid he's far more experienced than me and I will disappoint him in the bedroom department"
You're too young to be thinking about this with an adult!
We know you're still in high school so I'm guessing the oldest you will be is 15.
How old is he exactly?
I hope you are aware that if he's over 18 and he has sex with you, he's breaking the law and will go to prison if he gets found out?
You are not liable to face the full extent of the law because you are still classed as a minor, but he's is an adult and should know better. If he goes against his knowledge of this situation and has sex with you, he can and should go to prison.
As for whether it will put him off or not, I'd say no. There's something about a female with her virginity that guys go crazy for, and I think he would probably de-flower you with pleasure, but it knocks me sick to think about it.
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reader, Love.  +, writes (2 September 2012):
 Don't tell him till he asks you. Odds are he probably be able to guess if you are or not depending on how much time you spend together. If he does run away or whatever for you being a virgin then he's not worth it.
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 September 2012):
 The question of your virginity should not even be on the table yet. You have known him a month and he is older than you. How much older?
Please do not allow yourself to be manipulated, flattered, cajoled, pressured and mis-used all because he wants to brag to his friends that he bedded a virgin.
You are worthy of more than that.
Do not be in rush to impress him. if he is a few years older than you and you already think he might be interested to know if you are a virgin still then that screams a red flag to me.
Why would a genuine guy want to know if a 15 year old was a virgin unless his intentions were not honorable?
Questions about Virginity are often asked on DearCupid along with "am I pregnant".
And a really good article on Virginity has been written and I repeat it below. ALong with some other reading that you might find useful.
And if you are a virgin? And you allow him to take your virginity and he is older than you? Then you will most probably also need the articles on being dumped so I have included those articles too.
Virginity should not be a topic for discussion after knowning him for just one month. If he is a guy worth considering then the topic would not even be on his mind.
Please enjoy being a virgin a whole lot longer.
Here are the articles from Dearcupid.org that I mentioned.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/virginity-.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/unprotected-sexnever-worth-it.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/20-questions-to-ask-someone-on-a-date.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/understanding-teenagers.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/a-survival-guide-for-the-serial-dumpee.html
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reader, krysndj +, writes (2 September 2012):
I'm not trying to sound like such a mom but if you are under 18 and you are dating someone who has been out of high school for a few years that type of relationship is inappropriate to begin with. Also can be very illegal. To be perfectly honest with you men like that only want sex and you will most likely only get hurt. My advice is end things now. Before you get hurt and he gets into trouble. He has no business being with a minor and you will have more common interests with a guy your age. There is really no way for this to end well. And as far as you being a virgin hold on to that as long as you can. Your info shows you are 13-15. Way too young to think about having sex. You can get pregnant, std's. Some things are uncurable but you could be stuck withit for the rest of your life. Wait as long as possible to lose your virginity and end things with this older guy and find someone your age.
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reader, helza8a +, writes (2 September 2012):
 Just because you are a virgin dose not mean you have to say it out loud to who ever your seeing. unless you're in the situation where your relationship is ready to become sexual there no real reason for you to let him know. and if your wondering if he is that type to leave a girl as soon as he gets her into bed, then all i can say is that that's something only you can answer. I don't know him and it would be unfair to him for me to put him in the same category as other jerks who would do that. I can only say that you have to understand sex is about trust,its about trusting someone with your body and heart so think carefully about who you choose to give yourself to.No good man will ever look down on you for waiting
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