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writes:what do i do! i met this guy online and we really like each other. however i told my bestfriends and they were like what the hell. I have been talking to him for 7 months , we talk to webcam etc etc and we both like each other. We cant be together as he lives in another country. a few weeks ago i told my two bestfriends about him. They dont like him and want me to delete him from my life. this is affecting our friendship and i dont want it too. however i still want to keep him as well as my friends. what shoud i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): In that case it sounds like the green eyed monster. Just be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. No, he never asks for any pictures or anything! Totally decent. We dont talk for hours - usually in the evening for about an hour. And my friends have been my bestfriends for about 6 years! He's 20, by the way. They have never spoken to him, they just dont like him. :((And thank you for your responses - it's very much appreciated.)
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reader, leylaness +, writes (28 January 2011):
 What most people forget is that there best friends are going to be there for you before this relationship starts and after. You wouldnt want to lose your friends thn get hurt by this guy and have no one to turn to. Your best friends are your best friends for a reasson. You trust them and they love you. Im sure they are worried. If my best mate said to me that shes doesnt approve of a guy i would simple not be with them, after all your best friends come first. Ask them what is it they dont like, and why they are worried. Taken on board what they say and just rember what they say is for your own best interest. I have been in your situation (he was in the same country) but i listen to my best friend and talk about it fully and that helped me make the right decission and i am happy i did.You dont need to cut him out but dont get to involved your so young and its pritty impossible to be able tp be with this guy at your age, best friends and maybe when your older you can meet up but at the monetn think about the people who are there for you and see you most daysP.S keep safe on teh web if you meet him meet in aplace that you KNOW WELL! tell your parents where and who you are going to meet and go with a groupe of trust worthy friendsgood luck xxx
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 First of all: do your friends have a specific reason (or reasons) for urging you to drop your online friend? I mean, do they see qualities in him that make them dubious? Or are they simply jealous of the attention you pay him?
I would say that unless he is asking you to send money, or nude photos, or shows signs of wanting to marry for you, for example (if so, he might just want to get a visa to visit the UK); or wanting you to go visit him in his country - if you do eventually meet, it would be better for him to take a trip to England to where you live, and maybe not only spend some time together, but also meet your parents.
So: absent any of the above red flags, and so long as you two are just chatting and enjoying spending time online, why not continue? I would caution you against being online every day for hours on end - I mean, you have your own life and he has his - Perhaps you could just not respond when your friends express their dislike of your friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): i agree with DB. I have to ask though why don't they like him? How old is he? Is he asking you to do things on webcam?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 January 2011):
 You do what you want to do. Any friend who forces you to choose between them and someone else isn't a true friend. A true friend would want your happiness, even at the expense of some of their own.
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