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writes:I know this is for relationships, but i'm stressing and having an anxiety attack right now!! I really want some truth because everyone's being nice about what could of happened.Two nights ago i lost my phone in a bar/club, it's not been traced or handed in so i know for sure someone stole it. My best friend said she is sure that in that place (pretty rough) that someone found it, liked the phone kept it and chucked my sim. And since my phone is a new blackberry and in amazing condition, it's very unlikely someone wouldn't hand it in!!Anyways, it's not my messages or contacts i'm worried that i lost, that's blocked anyways. It's the fact that my memory card couldn't be locked and that's in there with SO many pictures of me, my family, friends just everything!! I hate the thought of it being in the wrong hands and someone knowing what i look like, who my family are, who my friends are, where i hang out, what i do.. Just going through my personal life and having pictures of me!!! They could easily pretend to be me on facebook or anywhere else! Who knows what they've done with the pictures and videos!!!?? It's just eating me inside and making me feel sick at the thought of it. My friend said they probably deleted them anyways and why would they want pictures of someone else.. But that doesn't change the thought that someone else practically has my life in their hands!!?A phone is so personal and mine has so much about me, that it worries me ridiculous amount!! I can't even eat or sleep right now, it's that bad! I know i can't do anything now, but am i right in panicking about this and in assuming the person probably has been through my information, pictures, videos and kept them!???
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reader, Problem.helper  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 You can't do anything about it right now , so why worry so much ?
The possiblity that someone used your picture or did something with them is very unlikely.
My asumption is that they deleted all the stuff and sold the phone as "hardly used" or kept the phone for themselfs.
There are many other serious things you can worry about but this aint one of them. CHILL, everything will be alright.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): I remember how i felt after my phone was stolen. It was terrible. There were messages, contact numbers, photos, everything. I kept worrying about the photos for a long time. . . I can understand, that it is normal for you to get anxious. But, the reality is you can't do anything about it. . . The least you can do is be careful of what you store in your next phone. Because you never know, it can happen again, anytime. . .@cerberus, i would like to apologise first if i'm being rude, but do you think it is a good idea to tell on a public site, that you kept a found phone without trying to return it ! No offence, what i mean is there are lots and lots of people here, many of them are very young. . So don't you thing this might mislead them about the right thing to do when someone finds a lost thing ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes i know it is JUST a phone. But when you have so many memories and information about yourself on there, you worry who's hands it's in and what they'll do with it!
So everyone's saying that the pictures and that are probably deleted... are you saying that even the most common, chaviest, rough type of people would of just deleted it!? Cause i know some people like that and they mess with other peoples information and personal things. I know what some of them are like and what they do when they find someone elses phone. Which is why i am so concerned!
I have dealt with the fact that i wont get it back and that i have to get over it. But still i wont stop thinking who's got it......
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): When a burglar breaks into a home do you think they go straight for the family photo albums? Fact is..you are the only one who cares about your personal contacts and your photos..no one else does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): Relax I found a phone like that years ago and nothing in it was locked. It was before the days when you could but the woman's pictures and messages were still on it. Turns out her boyfriend was emotionally blackmailing her. A real abusive asshole too. I read all their messages in the inbox and sent list and yeah I watched all her videos and looked at her pictures.
Basically I spent an hour doing that before I deleted everything, didn't give it a second thought after that, I was just delighted to have an awesome new phone. Who cares about someones nights out pictures and pictures with family and friends. They're boring and you can just go to facebook to see all that.
It sucks that you lost your phone, I just hope you backed up all the stuff so you don't lose the pics and stuff. As for having some person invade your privacy. Trust me they only did so for about an hour before they deleted everything. No offense OP but unless you're a celebrity then you're not interesting enough to keep any of that. I mean if it's a black berry they would have had to flash it anyway and put cracked software on it to get it to work again.
Now if someone stole it they would have removed any lingering trace of you off that phone straight away, otherwise if they're caught with it then they can't exactly deny that it is yours.
Basically OP unless you have bikini photos or naked pictures of yourself on there then you have nothing to worry about. If you connected to facebook or your email accounts from your phone then just change your passwords and change your settings. Gmail has thing that blocks access from anything but your home computer, so does facebook and other stuff. Just go to the settings in those. Gmail if you have it will also let you check if your email account has been accessed from your phone any time after it was taken.
It's hassle but there really is nothing a person can do with a bunch of photos.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Bummer you lost your phone...I hope canceled the phone service. Ask your carrier how to track the phone, maybe you could recover it.
It's sad to me that young people are so addicted to their phones, the phone takes on a personality of it's own and be ones your personality. It's like losing a family member or pet.
calm down, it's a phone with a few pictures of thousands you take every day. Life is meant to be lived not recorded and stored in a phone. While you don't have a phone practice actually connecting with your friends and family through real conversation, not texts and virtual photos. Let your overreaction and dependence on an expensive electronic device be a wake up call.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Don't worry. It takes a little more than just a few photos and a very vague idea of who your friends and family are to steal someone's identity and pretend to be you on facebook for some odd and almost nonsensical reason.
The information you store on that Blackberry is worthless to the person who took it. Give humanity a little more credit. Not everyone's a creepy stalker-type person.
I hope that helps.
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 CALM DOWN!!!!
this person does not know you. Its more thsn likely that if they've kept the phone they've deleted everything. Why would they want to keep the pictures and videos of you?
They are gong to be more bothered with the phone than whats inside it, I mean its in top condition so they've probably kept it for themselves.
Your over reacting a little, I know I'd react the same but the person doesnt know you and it isnt likely that they are ever going to come into contact with you or anyone from your family, so you should really calm down and just get a new phone.
Stop worrying so much honey. The pictures are probably already deleted.
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