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writes:My partner of three years doesn't want me to go to dancing lessons because they change partners every few minutes. It is quite a common way for dancing classes to be, by changing partners. I have just started lessons but my partner can't go because he is away on business each week on the nights of the lessons. I told him I enjoyed it and I danced with lots of different people. He got angry and said he didn't like it. He doesn't think people in committed relationships should go to dancing lessons alone. He is welcome to come, but can't at the moment. I go with my mum and dad, and they love me going. Is he being unreasonable? or should I consider his feelings and not go. I was learning dancing before I met him. This is a new style. We will be doing lessons together on a different night.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): Thanks to those that gave me feedback...awesome! Thanks so much! I have continued my lessons.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (3 February 2011):
 I think it's unreasonable, but you should always consider his feelings. You're going with your mom and dad. It's not like you're going to pick up guys. Dancing can be very intimate, so I can understand his feelings, but I also think he should be happy you're exploring a hobby you like. How important is the class to YOU? If he's already in one dance class with you, perhaps it wouldn't be the worst idea to make him happy here.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 It is purely dancing for goodness sake, not speed dating... Plus you are going with your parents!
What does he think you are going to be doing.... having sex on the dance floor!
I think he needs to sort out his insecurities here and stop being selfish. I hate to sound so harsh (probably because I love dancing too) but he really needs to deal with it. I used to go with my mum because my ex wouldn't come with me... its just fun, that it all it is, so why do men always think the worst! Grrrrr
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