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writes: hi im a 17 year old bisexual. Im sick of lyin to my parents about where im goin when im goin to gay bars, and always deny myself being gay. i think im ready to come out, but dont know how. i think they seem a little homophobic and they may hate me. how will i come across the point so i can be honest from now on with nothing to hide? i do want to get married to a man and have kids later in life. but now im happy being with girls at this age. please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, youcant loose what you never had!  +, writes (17 September 2007):
i have a lot ov gay and bisexual friends most who are 16 17 too.they have all told there parents friends;people who are important to them.they told me that the best choice they ever made was to come out and personally I think you should too.you have nothing to be ashamed off.and noway will your parents hate you they love you,your there child.My friends thought exactly the same that there parents would disown them but all the friends ive known;there parents have stuck by them.yes they may be a little confused or they may find it a little odd at first they even may wounder how they never guessed but all that matters is they will come round in the end and they will love you for who you are and you should love yourself too.if your redy to come out and come clean dont let anything stop you the longer you leave it the more chance of you never speaking your trew feelings.
im not rely shore on how you go about telling them thats for you to decide id maybe sit them down and tell them you want to be honest because that is important to you or talk about it to the parent or relitive you most feel comfortable talking too.but more than anything have the courage and tell them you will thank your self in the long run.
hope my advice helped and good luck keep me posted x
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (17 September 2007):
 Hey.I'm glad to see you don't feel bad about your own life choices,it's great:)Regarding your parents I don't think they'll hate you for any reason,you're their child.Even tho honestly I'm a bit homophobic myself I have a few gay friends and I managed to accept them the way they are,even went to gay club with one of them few times.Wanna say people understand someone different than them in time.Maybe for you it would be better to read advices from someone gay who admitted his parents who he is also.As far as my experience goes with confessions it's never easy but if you make the right atmosphere at the moment and explain that you love them and want to share your feelings with them hopefully everything will turn out fine.Best luck
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