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writes:Hello, I need some advice. I am 24 years old and don't know how to drive. My parents never bothered to let me take lessons even if we had the money. When I said I wanted to start driving at home 17, they laughed. I have an older sister who started driving at 15. I graduated from high school and went to community college. Luckily my high school was walking distance and my college was a bus away. I transferred to a local university studying remotely. I even went to work by bus. Now, my parents encourage me to take driving lessons after all these years. I want to drive but I am becoming less interested now, because I feel like I should have started sooner. I am losing the motivation. I have friends who drive and managed to move out while I'm stuck at home with parents. Is it to late to be learning how to drive at this age? I don't think my parents wanted me to leave so I wouldn't move out too soon..
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (25 August 2020):
 What a ridiculous question. Why would it be too late to do ANYTHING when you are in your early 20s? My parents wouldn't let me have a pony or horse riding lessons when I was a child, despite constant pleading. I started taking lessons when I left home and got my first job and bought my first horse soon afterwards. I didn't sit and moan about being deprived by my parents.
I really cannot see what your problem is. People learn to drive at all ages. I wonder if, at this stage, it is YOU who is using this as an excuse NOT to move out from under your parents' roof? After all, why would being unable to drive prevent you moving out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2020): People learn to drive at any age! I have a friend who's a very accomplished attorney. He grew-up in New York City. He has lived in New York almost all his life. Where he works for a prestigious law firm. He always uses buses, cabs, Ubers, Lyfts, limos, and the subway. He's 55 years old, and he had never learned to drive! Three years ago he moved out of the state of New York; and he had to learn to drive, and get his driver's license. Meanwhile, he got an offer of a partnership at a firm in Boston, Massachusetts. It didn't bother him being the oldest-guy attending driving school!
You gotta do whatcha gotta do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2020): It’s never too late to learn to drive and it is a very useful skill to have as it opens up many more job and social opportunities to you. Most people have to save and pay for their own lessons too. You should be motivated to do it because it helps you and is an investment for your future.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 August 2020):
 Of course it's not too late to learn to drive ! I was 30 when I got around to get a driving licence . My son was 23 when he got his. My father, 40 ! I know literally dozens of people who got their driving licence in their 20s and 30s and even later.
Sure, where I live it's different, because the cost of driving lessons and the driving licence fee are very high , and public transportation, at least in Northern and Central Italy, is plentiful and excellent, so young people are actually not very motivated to get their licence ASAP, it is not a "life-or-death" matter like it is in many areas of USA.
Still, getting a driving licence at your ( young ) age is not
" too late " or weird or anything. It's perfectly normal, it means that so far you have managed to live your life and to get around by making sacrifices / adopting adjustments which now you, though, want to leave behind.
And please stop blaming your parents for your not being a driver yet. While of course it would have been nice if they had helped you , with money and encouragement, to get your driving licence a few years ago- they did not OWE you to do that; and anyway you have had 8 years ( eight ! ) so far to put together both money and motivation- so, if you didn't- that's on you, not on them .
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 August 2020):
 Dude, what a bad excuse.
Take lessons, get your drivers license and move on, you can't make this your parents fault. I have a 16 year old who WORKED all summer to save up for her driver's training. She starts in a couple of weeks. I also have a 20 year old who doesn't want to drive and hasn't gotten her driver's license. But eventually she will have to. My 18 year old had the choice between going on a school trip to NY or get her license, she picked the trip so she is working to make enough to start her driver's training too.
It is NOT too late to start.
You parents can't KEEP you at home. Don't put it on them.
I'd say (depending on the climate in your state) get it done before winter or start in spring. But don't drag your heels. Think about the "freedom" a driver's license represent.
You are an ADULT. BE an adult.
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