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writes:Hi, i need help with something. I'm 13 years old. i have a boyfriend thats 15. My boyfriend is black and im white. he isnt that dark he is light skin. He came to my house to meet my parents ( he wants to meet my family n all my friends). When he left my parents were yelling at me telling me to break up with him cause he isnt white. i didnt break up with him cuz i love him so much. but im affraid we r going to get to far in this relateship and i might have a mixed baby and my parents / family would never talk to me. what should i do?? i need help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, loverrbug +, writes (12 May 2011):
loverrbug is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank u guys so muchh!! this realli helped!! 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): If he makes you happy then stay with him, your parents shouldnt try and make you split up with him just because of the colour of his skin. you said you love him? so you need to think, can you imagen being without him. im sure your parent would come round to the idea, if they love you then they should value what makes you happy. Do what makes you happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Follow your heart sweetie. Forget what others say and try to do to prevent your relationship. This is outright sad, inhumane, and disrespectful of your parents.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (16 April 2011):
This is a sticky situation and I can see why no one has responded yet; the underlying issue of your predicament is still a very touchy subject even among adults. In fact, many times, issues like these end up being the "big pink elephant" in the room that no one wants to talk about. Me? I'm not one to back to down in the face of a touchy subject so I'll tell you what I think. I'm not sure where you live in the US but some parts of the US are more accepting of this than others. Anyhow, you are kind of in a tight spot here, but so are your parents. You are in the 13 - 15 age range and therefore you are at the mercy of your parents. You live in their house and therefore you must follow their rules. This is where YOU are in a tight spot. However, with this sort of thing, if they force you to break up with him then this is only going to make you want to rebel against your parents for their way of thinking; this is their tight spot. Perhaps this is something that you could ask your parents to discuss. Tell them you want to have an adult like conversation about this and all of you put all your cards on the table so everyone knows how everyone feels. Something else you have to consider as well. Is this worth causing a rift between you and your family? This is a question you have to ask yourself. Try to view this as an outsider and determine every "cause" and the "effect" of each cause. I am not saying it is not worth it...but it might not be worth it at this stage in your life because you are not an adult yet. To give you my personal opinion I do not think it is worth it in this stage of your life. When you become an adult and live on your own you can make your own choices if you find someone of a different race that treats you like you deserve and need to be treated then don't hold back for fear of "skinned knuckles." Your family will come around then. Blood is thicker than water and you may be estranged from them for a time but in the end they will come around. THINK about the consequences of your actions. Another thing. DO NOT get pregnant right now; you're WAY too young for that. Good luck.
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reader, b90219 +, writes (16 April 2011):
Wow, that really sucks. I think you should stay with him. If you're not raicist like you're parents, not to be rude by addressing the word but its the truth, then love will last. It's OK to have mixed babies. I'm half white and half mexican and proud of it. If your parents REALLY love you they won't judge who you date by raice. Hope that helped.
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