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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 10 months. I live with him and his family as my mum now lives in Canada (we're both moving there in October) and I don't talk to any of my family.Basically he's been talking to this girl for the past week or so, and at first he couldn't stop talking about her. His eyes lit up whenever he mentioned her. I told him how I felt and he stopped talking about her but carried on talking to her. I wasn't exactly thrilled about this but I let it be. I felt like he wanted more, so I dyed my hair darker because that's how he likes it, I'm now on a strict diet plan, we're having sex more often. Everything I can do just to make him keep interested.I was on Dailybooth, a sort of social networking website where you upload pictures daily and talk about whatever you want. I was looking at this girl's profile and she had a picture of her boobs in a bra and that's it. She'd cut out her head and body. I looked through the comments and my boyfriend had wrote "This picture makes tuesdays a lot better :)" to which she replied " It had better!".I, obviously, got really upset and angry about this. I refused to speak to him for a few hours then when we finally did talk I told him about everything I'd done to keep him interested and that I'd never feel good about myself or us unless she was out of the picture. He refused to stop talking to her and kept saying she was just a friend and what he'd said was a joke. It took me packing up ALL of my stuff into my suitcase and yelling at him about how we're over for him to agree that he'd stop talking to her. I told him we aren't in a relationship until he can make me feel like I am wanted and I do mean more to him. Which he agreed too. Then we were having a few hugs and trying to talk through how he could fix all this when he asked if he could still talk to her! He refuses to show me any of their conversations, then said they weren't saved, but won't prove to me that what he says his true. Recently I have been getting severe depression and I am going to get it sorted next Wednesday. But I was just wondering how do we fix this? Am I in the wrong asking him to give up this friend that he's had for a week? He compares their friendship to his and his best friends whom he's known for a lot of years. I don't know though, how can he almost give up a girlfriend of 10 months for a girl of a week? What should I do?
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reader, Jackalus +, writes (23 April 2011):
The best advice I can give is to leave the guy, if he brought her up again when you two were trying to work things out then he obviously thinks he can't live without her so I would say leave him and go home to live with your parents for a while:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): Hi
I posted something similiar just afew days ago-im going out with my boyfriend almost two years and i found out he was emailing a girl for 9 months i didnt know about. I only found out coz he blurted it out in a fight-and he wasnt even sorry about it=insisting she was a friend and he only talked to her afew times. A friend thats a random girl from a party? I dont know what to say to you-its a rotten feeling when your boyfriend puts a flimsy over you. Its so hurtful. I turned to here too for some advice. Mine was mainly dump him so im considering that now. Think maybe you should too. Its nice to know someone else is going through the same thing so hope this makes you feel better! Maybe one day we'll meet someone decent. Best of luck deciding
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reader, amenthyst3356  +, writes (16 April 2011):
Sorry but you have to leave him. He isn't right for you, don't change yourself for him it will only make you more depressed and him less attracted to you.
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