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writes:Hi there, So here's my situation, I'm somewhat of a worrier, I don't exactly know why or where this has come from. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now and things are wonderful, he treats me amazing, he tells me daily how much I mean to him. My family think he's the one that I could potentially spend my life with, and this is all I really hope for. I'm not one who falls easily, in fact, I am quite amazing I found someone whose personality blends with mine so well. However, I am young, this again worries me (statistically many people break up because they don't know how to grow together and they change). I'm a very aware person, I pick up on small things, and I understand people at an incredible extent. However, for some reason lately I just cannot seem to understand that he would still be happy with me. His feelings/actions have not changed, he still treats me like gold but in the last few weeks, all I've done is worry, have a fear that he's sick of me, or a fear that I'm not letting him be himself. I just would like any opinions as to whether this is normal, potentially someone who can give me an honest opinion if I should be worrying (because I'm young) or how to cope with these irrational thoughts. Thanks so much! Reply to this Question
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 sounds pretty normal to me yourve fallen for him and dont want to loose him and this is what you are scared of that his feelings may change towards you.id suggest you be honest with him tell him how you are feeling
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (16 March 2010):
You seem to suffer from low self-esteem. That's very common, but also something that *you* need to work on yourself. No one else can give you self-esteem.
You said it yourself: you cannot understand why he'd still be happy with you. Perhaps the reason is that you're not happy with yourself?
The irony is that people who are trash are full of confidence and people like yourself are full of doubt.
In my opinion, the biggest danger to your relationship is your fear; it works like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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