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writes:My own insecurities are ruining an otherwise great relationship. I have tried therapy several times and pray for help to overcome these terrible insecurites.I trust my man not to cheat on me and in all other ways.I am attractive and do not look my age, although it bothers me that as we age, it is harder and harder to look the way we want to. It bothers me that there are sexually attractive women so prominently displayed on tv, movies, online and even on magazines at the grocery store. It just feeds my insecurities that after seeing this constantly, I won't appeal as much to my husband.Any advice to make me ease up my self torment and the conflict it brings to our relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, snowqueen +, writes (6 February 2011):
When you feel down, just start to take care of yourself. Little things like new nail polish can start a domino effect. Nails, hair, clothes, take long walks all the time, then move toward more excersise, eating healthy, organization... All these things occupy your mind leaving less room for negative thoughts. You will find that the more you take care of yourself the more you focus on what you are rather then what you are not. And positivity is the most attractive quality in a person!
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reader, RayBones +, writes (6 February 2011):
 It feels so backwards for someone my age to give advice to someone who probably knows much more about it than I do.Let me instead just relay a personal experience. when I was in second grade I had a crush on a girl in my class. she sat across from me and I saw her everyday. At 7 years of age it wasn't sexual in the least bit but only because of proximity and shared experiences.When I was 14 I was in puberty and my hormones drove me to be sexually attracted to women. I found the girls in my class that everyone thought was pretty to be pretty, and I thought that the pretty girls in the media were pretty. I was new to sexuality, and my attraction was split between biology and psychology.When I was 25 I and experienced and accustomed to sexuality I found myself able to be sexually attracted to most women in some way. when I was 7, and when I was 14 I was not attracted to woman in their late 20's or beyond not even in the slightest. At 25, I was no longer interested in 7 or 14 year olds either. I might have seen some of the younger girls as pretty, but not in such a way that I'd want to cultivate any kind of relationship.Now at 30, I am becoming less attracted to girls in their early and mid 20's. As I've aged I've found my preference to grow, but to always be concentrated on the people that are around my age. I imagine that if this pattern continues, when I am 60 I'll find girls greyed out to be attractive, that at this moment, I do not.I don't know if this is true for every guy out there, but I think that even if your husband finds younger girls attractive it doesn't mean he wants to be with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): There are actually late twenties women out there (believe it or not) that have never even had a relationship and you are fifty plus worried about your looks instead of living life..some people never even get out there or have major problems to where they can't be with someone and figure it out when their youth is gone.
Its not their looks..it's their personality and that means more. We all age but some don't have incredible memories and experiences to look back on and you are creating those memories right now.
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