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writes: Okay I'm having quite a big problem here.My orgasms aren't really that great, nd ive tried experimenting but it seems like they're just over so quick! its like, 5/6 seconds of a nice feeling, but then i dont even feel satisfied.Everyone else seems to be having mind-blowing sex and orgasms, but to me, it just doesnt feel that great.any advice? thank you all so much, you're great.
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reader, StraightTalker  +, writes (15 November 2009):
Im 24 year old female and mine only last about 1-2 seconds. I wish i could get 5 seconds! i get this nice but mild tingly feeling in my clitoris and its the same whether its with a vibrator my fingers my partner etc...I have been sexually active since i was 16 and experienced my first orgasm when i was 8. I too have never experienced this "mind blowing" "magical" "body shaking" experience. To be honest i think the female orgasm is extremely exaggerated. I cannot have multiple ones either. If girls really do have this "magical" experience then i suppose they are just extremely lucky but you are definately not alone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): I found that I only had mind-blowing orgasms when I had fallen in love and had spent a lot of time getting to know my partners body and he to know mine. I too was around 19 before I started having "mind-blowing" orgasms.
Try not to feel left out. "Everyone", whom ever that may be, is more than likely exaggerating.
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reader, a-g55 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 yes u could wait until u can get real orgasms. science has proved many different ages where u experienced climaxed orgasm but which ones are true. but the average is late twenties. ure a teenager now and ure sex shud be very satisfying coz ure young and u will only be young once so what i suggest is lookin out for sum1 who knows hypnotism and NLP. psycology students are intrested in that if ure at school or at college. an orgasm is such a complex feeling. there are so many different ways to stimulate the vagainal area that its possible to find which ones feel best. now orgasms also depend on ure self esteem and ure limiting thoughts. such as u saying and confirming to yourself that u cant have a long orgasm plays a big part because ure subconcious now believes u might have a problem. also the setting and the person play a big part. contraceptive pills alter ure bodys chemistry which is important in the natrual way of finding ure right mate. but if u dont take them i wouldnt worry about that but as far as chemistry is concerned u might of heard of pheromones before. there is alot of debate to wether humans can pick up pheromones but i have proven to myself they do play a big part. they basicly tell the opposite sex about ure gene pool. the more diverse it is to the boys the stronger the subconcious feeling of attraction and comfort around that person. also. do u feel comfortable in sex or are u worried about ure orgasm problem. with that bien a predominant thought in ure mind whilst having sex cud also affect it. the human mind is like a computer that can be programed usin sumthin called make believe. children below 10 are experts at this. jus watch how good they act when they play mummies and daddies and cops and robbers. they believe they are them. now all u have to learn is to believe that ure orgasms can progress. tell ureself that everytime u have sex the orgasm will just get longer and more intense. and pretend to start with and "make-believe" will kik in until u can physicaly feel better and longer orgasms. i have msn and i can talk u thru techniques you can try which will work for u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Hey honey!
Your still young and your bodys getting used to its new status as a woman still!
I didnt have mind blowing orgasms till i was 19 and had been having sex for almost 3 years, and with my current bf for about 5 months! He really had to get to know my body and I had to get to know myself and what I liked too.
Give it time, be patient, keep enjoying yourelf and stay relaxed, one day youll be surprised!! :-D
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