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*izzy0808
writes:I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half. He stopped hanging out with his Fraternity friends for a long time because they were bad influences and he was so nice to me. Now, he has started again and is emotionally abusing me!! He says he wants to be with me but wont answer if i call, tells me he has to be drunk to be around me, gives me certain times he will hang out with me, and thats just the beginning. I have been called every name in the book and put down in every way. I still love him cause its not the guy i fell in love with!!! Please help! what happened to him?? is he seeing someone else or just wrapped up in the drugs and alcohol?
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Hi lizzy0808,
He's WORTHLESS. Don't really know what to say other than read your own post again and again. You deserve better than this. DITCH HIM and CUT ALL CONTACT.
YOU have got to think about YOUR own happiness. This isn't a rleationship at all and agree it is emotionally abusive.
DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR AND FORGET THIS IDIOT.
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reader, javajive  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 This man of yours has no respect for your feelings and is abusing you psychologically. By staying around him, you are giving him the message that it is ok for him to do so, and he can get away with it. This is not love, and a relationship with such a person will erode your self esteem, and can be harmful to your well being. I have been there myself, and it took me 10 years to see the light and get out. Every time I threatened to leave, he promised that he would change, but never did. He told me I would never find anyone else to love me, because I was so awful, and I believed him! I got engaged to my lovely current partner a year after dumping him.
Don't waste your life like I did. You find someone who will love and respect you, but you must find love and respect for yourself first.
Best wishes jj
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Get out ASAP! Chances are he will not change, guys who do this usually will not change and if he has been ding this even tho he knows he is hurting you then he isnt going to change. I just went throught the same thing except it was a girl who was emotionally abusive, life was often times like tortue because she changed her mind about me every minute. And said she loed me but now she basically decided to dump me for someone else and im done. And im a lot happier now, things still ate a little stingy once in a while. And you will have moments of i still love him but that will go away eventually.
DO not give him the chance to get you back block him on social sites or just remove him. Get rid of his phone numbers and pics. Anything that will make u think of him. The less you think about him the better but you also can not ignore the idea of him tho, otherwise you will never heal. You have to realize that you have reasons why u are no longer with him and things will be better.
No one deserves to be abused by any means, i know how it feels to want to hold on. I still want to sometimes but i know i had to get out and im slowly getting happier.
Hope i helped!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 before i even read this, the title of the question told me to tell you to get out. after reading it, my opinion is the same. under NO circumstances is it ever ok for someone to abuse a partner - be it emotional or physical. you dont deserve to be called names, and given a relationship schedule - this is ridiculous. my advice is to tell him how you feel and get out, before anything gets worse. this guy obviously has some issues and you shouldnt wait around to see how much he is going to take out on you, you deserve better xx
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