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*oviefan
writes:Alright this problem arised about a year ago, i first noticed that i was quite large when i found an article on the internet about average sizes of an adult penis. Well i immediately measured myself out of curiosity because i didnt really care until then. Well lets just say i was bigger then average in length. And i didnt say anything to anyone about my self for a long time.Well a conversation came up when i was with my friends and i said something to them about it, and to say the least they thought and still do think im full of it. They want me to pull it out and show them more or less and prove it and they say that i shouldnt think its gay or anything if they just see it. Well i dont like the idea and because there is no proof the have given me trouble about it ever since. Well now its a commonly known fact in our school now and some people believe it others dont. And now im more worried that this may have a negative effect on the girls who come after me. I dont want to have girls act like they love me to just try to get in my pants. Is this a possibility? I dont want someone to like me because they think im well going to be good at sex because im big...I have had a few girls who i would of never imagine trying to have something to do with me mainly a couple of preps and a few well a few slutty girls. And this is just feeding the fear.So could this become a problem?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (23 January 2008):
You seem to have a well balanced line of thinking and i'm sure the older you grow the better you'll handle this.In the end you can't change who you are but i guess as we are growing up,our friend's opinions influence our perception.
Tk care.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (21 January 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for more comments and information. And yeah i know that just because im big doesnt mean ill be good at sex, you have to still try. And yeah im sensitive to females that im friends with or more, but with guys unless im upset im not. I try not to be because some of my friends mock me sometimes. Most dont but some do. And its just easier for me to talk to females that i trust about emotional stuff.
And yeah i have never had sex and thats not because the oppertunity has not arose its just i dont want to do it with any person who is willing. I guess i want to have sex with people that im attracted to as well as trust them and have been dating them for a while. Im not going to just give away to all of my female friends. And im not cocky about it. If my friends mock me about it ill trun it into a joke or something or just blow it off like i stated before.
And sometimes this is hard to follow thru because my friends try sometimes to get me to screw anything with 4 limbs and a vagina. I have thus far heald strong and im hoping that this lasts. And sometimes as most guys do i have moments that if someone came on to me i feel like i may give in under the right circumstances. But i sort of fear this side of me. I ignore and suppress it.
Ok thanks for the help again.
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (18 January 2008):
 being teased or made fun if just because you have a big dick shouldnt be problem. you should be happy that you get that kind of attention at all. just be safe and dont get into bed with girls that want to use you. but im curious. how big is it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): It's not that size that matters, it's how you use it that counts... :) Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): Believe it or not, most women aren't that fussed over penises.
I mean they all like large dicks, but really they could take it or leave it cause they are quite capable of getting themselves off on something heaps smaller thaten the average penis anyway.
So the large member may be an intital draw-card, but unless you got the personality to go with it... it won't last.
Flynn 24
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reader, chlez83 +, writes (17 January 2008):
It could be a problem if you allow it.Just look at yourself as being normal.Don't focus too much on the size of your manhood.Live life.Find someone you can love and enjoy being intimate.I don't think da size of your penis will be an issue unless the lady has a unique problem.It'll also be a problem if you think of experimenting with any willing girl that comes along.Accept who you are and what you have and LIVE life!
Take care.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Hi,I do remember a very similar situation during my college days. The girls in one of my classes got hooked up on one guy who one of them had slept with. He had a massive one and they all took turns to sleep with him. Now he didnt have the slightest problem with girls sleeping with him because he had a big penis, quite the opposite, he loved the fact that girls were attracted to him because of this. But none of the girls went back for seconds, two who I were friends with said he was just a big headed wham bam thank you man merchant, he rammed it in and didnt care too much about them. For the girls it was just for the experience so they could brag to their girlfriends that they have had a big one. It was all very superficial, but that's what college is like.In your case , you seem a lot more sensitive, unfortunately you have opened a can of worms though - and being young and at university your friends won't let up. Undoubtedly you will get girls who want to sleep with you because of your big penis, don't worry they won't pretend they love you to get you into bed, you are at University for crying out loud not a 16year old - things are a lot more open in University, the girls will let you know relatively quickly why they are interested. At the end of the day if you are not interested in no strings sex at University ( which probably puts you in the minority ) then it should be relatively easy to find out who is genuine and who isnt. But as I said before , the cats out of the bag, whoever dates you will quite likely respect you as a person first but they won't be able to avoid the taunts from others who will remind them what they are in for when you do have sex , your future girlfriend can expect lots of "you'll be walking funny " comments aimed at her, it will be unavoidable. It's how you deal with it that matters. Best to just ignore it.The pressure is on you for sure, but the good thing to do is remember to be sensitive to a girls needs, big penis' are like big boobs, they are great to look at but they don't mean sex is going to be great, you've still got to work at that.good luck.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (17 January 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt doesnt bother me its just kind of annoying, and im more worried about the fact that everyone knows because my friends are loudmouths about somethings. And how that may affect my relationships. I dont care what people think. And when people harass me i dont respond much i just blow them off.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 I dont think it should be a problem you sghould ignore those people who are treating you like that..You'll know if a girl wants you for you. Dont rush sex and see how long it takes before they ask. 1-2 weeks and its means they're most probably doing that because they heard about your size.If a girl isn't prepared to rush or be rushed into sex then shes with you because she likes you. I always say this regardless of the size, its not the size of it its what you do with it that counts. So dont worry hun, just like anyone of any size, be weary x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): I would relate this to a girl having large breasts...good 'assets'. Everyone wants to touch her breasts, and a large penis is just as desirable from a girls point of view. It is already common knowlege, and after a few girls confirm this rumor, probably a lot of girls will want to see for themselves. It's always a good idea to get to know someone before becoming so intimate, you know? A few dates, to say the least. Share common intrests, etc. Good luck.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 well it is a possibility that some girls will just want to see it!!but to be honest, size is not a huge issue with us, esp wen its on the larger side. wen i like a guy, its not because ive heard about their size, or because i think they are going to be huge - its beacuse i like them for who they are and find them attractive. ignore wat ppl are saying cos at the end of the day, chinese whispers is no-ones fave game you know? just enjoy meeting new ppl and to be honest, i think you will know whether a girl just wants to get into your pants or not. let your friends obsess about your generous endowment, thats their choice, you can step past this and be the bigger person. email me if you wanna talk x
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