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*utofit4life
writes:Im in a relationship with a guy for 7 yrs, and I just started having an affair. Now my lover wants me to leave the guy Ive been with. Can you please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Your happiness should not come at the expense of others. This includes the 7 yr b/f and the guy you will certainly do the same thing to some time from now
And of all forms of evil, none are more destructive
of personality status than betrayal of trust and disloyalty to one's confiding friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): how should i make a guy happy or stay with me for long because i think i'm really dying for this other handsomeguy and he already asked me on a date so i don't want anything bad to happen so fast. tell me what to do cause i think you have got many ideas about relationships,so tell.
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (28 March 2007):
i think you should of left your bf BEFORE you became a liar, SORRY i mean cheat.
own up to your bf as to why your tearing out his out and explain to him its nothing to do with him but its all your fault. im sure youll lie about why your dumping him but i hope for his sake your honest with him
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reader, rossiboy confessions +, writes (28 March 2007):
 i think firstly you should own up to what you have done and that is cheated and you seem as if you done no wrong and you broken your bf heart you do not get with your lover and i tell you now i beleive in karma and one day you get hurt as much as u hurt your boyfriend so me strong enough to be honest and tell your boyfriend because you are in the wrong and i more interested in helping people who been hurt then people who gone off and had a shag behind there boyfriends back dnt say you love your boyfriend coz u got funny way showing love wish you all the best rossiboy
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reader, Reebe +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Well things in your relationship that aren't quite right need to be resolved. Are things rocky in your relationship? What needs to be worked on? Or have you simply become bored?
Try taking into account that you and your bf have been together for a long while and sit and talk to him and see if you can resove any issues you have.
You need to think about who can make you happy, you say you have just started the affair, do you think this other guy can be long term? Or is he just someone to distract you from normality because eventually you will have normality with this other guy too. Dig deep in your heart and follow it.
Good Luck!
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Hi babes,
You say you have been with your boyfriend for 7 years that is a long time to just throw everything away, you have only just struck up this relationship with your lover, its probably exciting and he makes you feel good with butterflies in ya tummy which you haven't felt for years...
Have you tried telling your boyfriend how you feel?
If so and you have tried and had no joy and you are really not prepaired to carry on then go for it....but remember all relationships are very very exciting at first then after the so called honeymoon period it settles so it needs both partners to keep it alive,
Good luck and I wish you all the best honey,
Let us know how you get on babes
Donna xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): Well I personally don't believe in having affairs. If you're in a committed relationship then that's what you should be, committed! If your having an affair then I think the answer is obvious, you should leave your mate because he's obviously not fulfilling all of your needs if you need to cheat on him. It's not fair to him either that you are seeing someone behind his back. How would you feel if it were the other way around?
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reader, Lady tinks +, writes (27 March 2007):
 It depends on how ahppy you are with your current man? if things are not going so good and there is nothing holding you back then i would say go for it sweety, your happiness counts! x x x
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