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writes:I am from a conservative family. yet i have opened up to my bf and have had sex with him many times. it is a long distance relationship. now i got a webcam and he wants me to go naked in front of it. although i trust him i feel awkward and i told him so. am i wrong? what is happening? i feel like i am doing something wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): I'm a man and I can tell you this.....once you go on the webcam.....it can be viewed worldwide....FOREVER!
I know currently 9 women who did webcam scenes for loved ones and even now over 10 years later, they are all still being viewed on numerous porn sites. One is a doctor who cannot gain a full practice, because someone recognizes her and another wanted to be a career police officer, but it was cut short when her police officer co-workers(men) started trying to sexually harass her...she had to resign!
I would not do a webcam, a video or even pictures.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Well it could be kinda fun....and it would better than him looking at some other girls' naked body (porn) but my advise is -- don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. So instead of totally nude, go slow. Try to take small steps and as you get more comfortable, then you can decide how far you want to go. Just make sure his buddies are watching over his shoulder.
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 You will be if you go on webcam; it can be taped and put on porn sites. I wouldn't chance it one iota, Dear. If he loves you, he wouldn't dare ask you to do such a thing. Hey, better yet...ASK HIM to do it first! I'll bet that'll dampen the mood. Sorry, but it had to be said. I wouldn't do anything (if you have that kind of relationship) that he wouldn't do. Put it that way and see what kind of a reaction you get.
Let me know...Gena Bullock
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reader, obsessive_couple  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 I think that if you don't feel comfortable with it, you just SHOULD NOT do it.What if you regret it? What if he shows his friends? It's all very bad if it goes wrong and you'll blame yourself for forever.Just follow your heart and your emotions. Everything else will fall into place!
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reader, hanz1993  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Well hun, it's up to you.
If you feel awkward as in you feel pressured then don't or you could do it and you never no you might feel ok afterwards.
take care
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): It's simple. Don't do it. If you feel awkward then that enough of a red flag not to do it. Keep in mind that if got in the internet, you can't retrieve it. You can't take it back. People need to be safer these days regarding that. You may trust your bf but most other people who have their naked bodies on the internet did not intend for that to happen and they too trusted their bf/gf. So just be careful. He should understand that and if he doesn't that means there's more reason why you shouldn't
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