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writes:I have been in a relationship with this guy for the past 10 months. I love him more than anything and love keeps on increasing every moment. Initially, even he used to be very expressive of his love. Since we are in a long distance relation and can't meet quite often, he used send me long emails about he felt about me, he used to write on my facebook wall and call me up just to say he loves me. But now, for the past month, he seems so distant. Like he says he loves me first...i am the one to say ' I love you' first. He doesn't send me messages anymore, and even doesn't reply to most of them! He doesn't answer my missed calls, doesn't call me....And still I stayed as normal as possible. He got normal somedays in between but again back to the same distant behaviour. I know he loves me, he really does, but what do I do? :( I feel so dumb and lonely! Yesterday he got mad because I asked his facebook password again. I was just kidding. But all my friends know their bf's fb passwords, except me. I never complained. I trust him and all I want is love in return. What do I do ? :( Please help!
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reader, AkiJ +, writes (16 May 2011):
AkiJ is verified as being by the original poster of the question @ KRIT- I totally get your point. The thing is, I had never ever asked for his password before....cuz I trust him more than anything and I know he would never ever do anything wrong. Actually, I just needed to log in through his profile to check the privacy settings of my profile and his laptop was out of order so I asked him myself...! And he got mad. Even he knows my password, but he says he never opens my account and I believe him! The thing that was bothering that given the fact that we two are so open and frank, what was the reason he wouldn't give me his password? That was bothering me! But I get your point too and maybe you are right!
And secondly, we are NOT in touch 24*7! We just talk on phone a little each night and meet once a month, that too for a few hours!
Thanks for your advice :)
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reader, krit +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Well this is NOT funny. I would be also pissed off if my gf had asked me about my fb password.If I want to give it then I do this without even her asking but will not give it if she's demanding me to do so. I have nothing to hide but just shows the low level of trust that she has towards me. It makes you appear like a Insecure person to do such a silly thing. Be a little more confident and give him a little space and time to miss you. We don't miss anyone who we are in touch with 24/7. Ofcourse it feels good to stay connected but attraction is only build when your disconnected. Play it wise and don't misuse it otherwise he would annoyed.
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reader, IAMDONE  +, writes (15 May 2011):
LDR are very difficult and require a lot of nurturing to stay alive. It is not known why all of the sudden change in your relationship and why the communication has slowed to almost none. Perhaps, one day he will share that with you and you will be able to address the issues and problems.Until such time happens, it is time for you to take a step back and allow your BF to start making the contact and start acting like he wants a relationship with you. If he does not act like he wants a relationship anymore, then you know that it is time to move on. It takes two to maintain and have a relationship.Keep your head up...do not make any more first moves to making contact, and see what happen in the next month to come. Time will tell sweetheart!
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 I an in an LDR as well, and I find that when my man becomes distant, its usually because of his insecurities.I'm not saying this is the case here, though. The only way you're going to know what's going on is if you TALK to him. Being long distance, sometimes the only thing we have is our conversations, which keeps the relationship alive. I think you need to either call him or video chat with him online and have a heart to heart about this issue. Let him know how you feel and what vibes you've been getting from him and ask him if there's anything bothering him.If he doesn't tell you what's up, or doesn't want to talk about it, there might be something else. If you start to notice his behaviour becoming suspicious, call him out on it.Good luck.
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reader, Lil peast  +, writes (15 May 2011):
Maybe you should stop making the effort for a few weeks? Send him one message at night saying night and i love you.. Other than that make him do a bit of the running fora while. When my boyfriend goes like that on me; that's what i do... It normally works.. I just hope it does for you too..
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