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writes:My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have a 4 month old son. My husband has always been a "boob man". And could spend hours of forplay on my boobs. Normally it doesn't bother me but lately he has tried a new thing and it worries me. A few weeks ago during sex he started kissing and sucking on my boobs, I thought nothing of it until he literally started sucking and got milk, I figured he would stop once he tasted it but he didn't. He literally kept doing it until I stopped him. He kinda laughed it off and I thought "ok whatever". Then 2 nights ago I was in bed (we co sleep with my son so he can nurse through out the night), I felt someone latch on and started to go back to sleep when I realzed that it didn't feel like my son, when I looked it was my husband. I totally grossed me out but I had no idea what to say so I just rolled over and went to sleep. Then this morning I was laying in bed nursing my son and my husband came in and put my son in his crib and said "daddies turn" I thought he wanted sex and said "sure", but he laid down and tried to suck them. What is he thinking, My husband has never showed weird interest like this before but I find this very disturbing but I have no idea how to bring it up to him. Please help.
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reader, Vlad55 +, writes (24 July 2010):
Google "adult nursing relationships". It is quite normal especially for boob men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): let him enjoy it will not do any harm to your baby i have asked many male friends it is ultimate desire in sex life to suck the boobs and drink milk. so it would be love towards your husband i am sure if you mentally accept it you would also feel great but tell him to gently do it not madly like a perfect baby like Osho says after some days a wife becomes a mother to her husband that's true
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reader, fishdish +, writes (21 January 2010):
 i think he just thinks its a turn on, it's special cause they 'never did that before' and it's only like a limited time 'bonus', if you will. maybe he also wants to be loved in the same way your love child is and doesn't like that he gets boob time that he didn't used to have to vie for as they were 'his' only. he still wants to feel, like, in on the goods you have to offer! I think it's kind of endearing? But I can understand being creeped out too, i've never been in that boat, but in any case, if it really just makes you too uncomfortable, let him know by telling him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it, but if it makes you uncomfortable, you need to express that to him...no pun intended.
Have you asked him why he likes it? Personally, I tasted my breast milk when I was nursing and it is quite delicious, not like regular milk at all, much more sweet. I also totally enjoyed the act of nursing and would have welcomed my husband to my breast, but he never showed interest...I think you are a lucky girl :)
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (21 January 2010):
 I may be entirely wrong about this as I'm not married nor have never been pregnant, but: with your husband drinking the milk, doesn't breast milk kind of change to go along with the baby? So if your husband is drinking the milk, he's kind of changing the timing of your milk and for your baby? Like your milk is like a clock and it grows like your baby in terms of nutrients, etc. I may be wrong though - maybe someone else can clear it up for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): my husband is as straightlaced as a man can be. He has no weird fetishes and so on..he is also a boob man and just last night we were talking and he mentioned that he always enjoyed sucking my breast and tasting milk. it was years ago, but i still was very....suprised and it did seem a little gross too me. lol
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 I have to be honest, I'm not married and never have been, so I'm far from a marriage expert, but I think the key in ANY good relationship is honesty. If this bothers you, you have every right to be able to communicate that with him and not have him lash out at you or be angry.
I will be honest, I find this a little strange as well. Obviously it's pretty standard foreplay for your man to play with your boobs, but for him to actually enjoy the breast milk...I don't blame you for feeling weird about that.
I would just sit him down and tell him that it bothers you. There's no need to emphasize that it's weird. The fact that it bothers you should be enough motivation for him to stop doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): Let him enjoy it, I have been breastfeeding adult men a year now. There are many helth benefits in it for you. breastfeeding reduces your chances of cancer and helps you lose weight faster. and dont worry about your son, your body will produce enough milk for the both of them. Relax, clear your mind and let him enjoy those milk boobs.
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