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writes:I am 24 and married to a 25 year old firefighter that is obsessed with sex and continuously is on sex sites, looking at porn, answering personal ads, and talking to and having sex with other girls on a virtual chat site. I am unhappy and have been for sometime now. We live with his mother and brother and we have a two year old daughter and a baby on the way. He has asked me not to tell his mother we are expecting again. I dont know hwat to do. The past 4 days every time i close my eyes all i think about is a good friend of mine that is also married that i revealed my feelings to last summer and ended up having a secret summer romance with him. We try and talk as often as possible and care alot about each other. but anyways the past 4 days the dreams and thoughts have all had him in them. what could this mean? What do i do? i am so confused! Please HELP!!!
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (21 January 2011):
 How close are you to his mom? Maybe you should talk to her. she knows her son very well, and moms are amazing at knowing how to help with things. I know you're a mommy too but she's been doin it longer :)I bet she'd be able to help you out with what to do. You might not want to bring up the other man though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): actually i never had sex with him i just enjoyed his company and shared a few kisses with him...never went past that. so please dont accuse me of something i didnt do.
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That's so sweet. I think you should share this with your husband so he can cheer you on from the sidelines.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): I can tell you one thing. Dreams are reflections of our deeper wishes of our heart that we never speak and it manifests in some form, or at times its a quick recap of those incidences that happen to us recently and apply some quick projections and wishes of our own subconciously.
In your case, you should stop being in connection with your boyfriend. Though its tough, it will stop you from doing things crazy. :) Good luck.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 January 2011):
 WELL THAT CHANGES EVERYTHING!!!!
Oh wait, no it doesn't. That's still an affair. I bet if you asked his wife, she'd agree.
Avoiding problems in your marriage doesn't solve anything. Running to the arms of another is even worse. You two need to face your problems in order for any resolution to be reached.
If you're unhappy, stand up for yourself. Take things in their proper order though. An affair isn't proper order, even if it's mostly an emotional affair.
I don't believe in dream interpretation, but if you want to try and interpret what your dreams mean, here's a good site: www.dreammoods.com.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually i never had sex with him i just enjoyed his company and shared a few kisses with him...never went past that. so please dont accuse me of something i didnt do.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 January 2011):
Cheating with a married man huh? Your hubby has virtual sex with other women while you have real sex with someone else. You sound like a match made in heaven!
Come on. There is a solution for unhappy marriages. I believe it's called divorce. Well, that or some serious councelling!
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