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writes:Hi,I've just found out I'm pregnant with my first babyThe baby wasn't planned but my husband and I have been married for two years and I have openly wanted kids....anyway...there's one small problem...my husband is a heroin addict...it all happened when he nearly worked himself to death the year before we got engaged, he turned to drugs, he told me about it and said he would stop and he did, but sometime since he's become addicted again I know he'd be a great dad, and he really wants to be one, but am I right to bring a baby into a world where his or her dad is addicted to heroin or am I right to expect my husband to pull himself away from something so addictive for our baby due in 7 months?Help please :'(
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Offer to suport him through treatment for the addiction and see if he will change for you and his future child. If that doesn't work then I hope seeing the baby will help him get clean because he may be the nicest guy ever but he can't really be trusted with a child when he is high. Talk to him about it and let him know how much support he has from you.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 Hiyaaaaa,On the way to save ya honey!Does your hubby know your pregnant? If he does then you should tell him to clean up the act because you don't want the baby growing up to be an heroin addict because what is painful is seeing your child following your flaws all because you didn't teach them!If your hubby really loved you he would stop for the sake of you and the baby. Obviously it's hard for any addict and they may get some relapses but you could encourage him to talk about his feelings and maybe go to rebab or counselling because it can help him particulary since your like what 7 months due!!!Remember that your playing for two now because you gotta look after yourself and your baby so don't be too stressed out because rebab is good and you can achieve good results trust me!Hope my advice helps!Good luck for you and your great hubby and the tiny baby!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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