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writes:My husband is refusing to give me an allotted amount of housekeeping money per week. I earn a small amount of money which does not cover the weekly food bill and other household items required. He says that I spend too much money on food etc., which I feel is unfair, I asked him then to look at the last shopping bill and see which items he feels should not have been bought, his answer to this was "I have n't got time for that". I should explain that he is self employed and so his money does vary from week to week and at present he is buying materials to repair the house that we have just moved into. However I do still think that the number one thing he should be paying towards is the weekly shopping bill. Please advise me on your thoughts?
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reader, Beaurosie +, writes (22 May 2010):
Beaurosie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou all for your answers to my question. I will put these ideas into action and see how we get along. Thanks again , very much appreciated.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 I like what dave said, dont buy the things he likes :) seems a good plan and he will cave in soon enough
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reader, Dave177  +, writes (22 May 2010):
You could always simply stop buying the things that your husband likes the most, and when he asks why there's none of it, explain to him that you took his advice and started cutting costs on groceries.
At the same time, I don't see why he shouldn't be contributing. When I was last in a long term relationship, I earnt more than my partner, therefore I contributed more. I don't agree with the way you say he's acting - you're not allies, you're a team!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): Clearly you two have not come to agreement on how you are going to jointly live and insure your marriage is happy and joyous. You have bigger problems than his criticizing your spending habits on food and your belief that he should be doing something your way and not his.
Reduce your food buying to a single loaf of bread and butter. Serve that at every meal until he decides to assist in adding to the list. If he's happy then you can add things for yourself and let him eat like a little boy would.
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