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writes: My husband can't stay hard unless I'm talking dirty to him. I'm tired of it. Sometimes if i stop talking he goes soft and just stop its over. He wants me to make it dirtier and i can't. Can you suggest something to help us? Reply to this Question
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reader, HappyPlace  +, writes (15 November 2012):
 Oh yes, porn is the problem. Watching it with him makes no difference at all - he needs the variety he has got from porn to keep his pecker up. Get him to lay off porn for a while and you should see an improvement. If not, see if there is a medical problem. When my partner watched porn, he'd often lose his erection when we had sex and it took ages for him to come. When he gave up, he had a good solid hard on and came really quickly. He went to his docs to see if there was a medical condition, and everything came back fine. So we knew it was the porn. Good luck.
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reader, VenusFlowerBasket +, writes (9 November 2012):
I have to admit I also suspected he may be watching too much porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not porn he barely ever looks at the stuff and when he does we are together. He likes me to tell stories and make him hot but i don't know what to say anymore i'd like to enjoy it without talking but he loses focus when im not talking. I like turning him on and telling him stories bur not 100% of the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2012): Someone is watching far too much porn?Perhaps he is beginning to deal with ED.If this is the only thing that will keep him erect, there is more to this than what he is telling you. It really does sound like a porn problem. But regardless, you should never have to do anything that you are uncomfortable with, ever.
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reader, VenusFlowerBasket +, writes (8 November 2012):
Yes as the previous poster said, this is his problem and he needs to go to the doctors and address his ED. You shouldn't be doing anything during sex that makes you uncomfortable and I wouldn't be comfortable with that either. In fact it sounds like a bore. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2012): Tell him to try going without porn for a month or two. It's numbing his brain.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (8 November 2012):
 If it's making you uncomfortable I think you should tell him. If he's a decent guy he wouldn't want you to do something that you didn't enjoy. And then gently broach the subject that it might be time to get to the bottom of his erectile dysfunction. Suggest he go to the doctor and get checked out.
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