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writes:i met this guy a couple of weeks back while i was on vacation. we had a kind of a fling for a couple of days. he seemed super cool, super funny, and we had a great time together. after i got home we messaged each other a bit, and i thought there was a chance we might arrange to meet again. however, he's now kind of stopped replying to my messages! i've sent him two messages in a week and he's just not replied. why would someone just go cold like that? it's not like we had a very serious thing or anything, but to ignore me like this just feels rude. i guess he's not interested, but why simply not reply? Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (16 February 2014):
 I'm with Uncle CaringGuy here, it was a holiday fling.
You both had fun and that's that! He probably texted a bit to be polite but then stopped because he's not looking for a relationship, it was just some holiday fun.
Enjoy the memories and leave it at that.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 February 2014):
 For once I have to play devil's advocate in favour of a vanishing act. I mean, yeah he was not very nice but it was sort of to be expected. This was a short holiday fling, born as a fling, meant as a fling, and with just a bit more chances to last than a snowflake in hell. You texted a bit, he texted a bit, and pretty soon he realized that it was a waste of time to stretch it more and that he was not interested to the point of travelling / making future plans for seeing you.
So sure, he should have said " I am sorry , but unluckily I feel that etc. etc. "
But- now be honest . Would you have answered " Ok cool , bye ". Or would you have protested, shown amazement or displeasure , asked for explanations , sought for " closure " ? " Why, you have to explain me why. Is there another girl ?... because in your last text you said you loved the way I smile, or the way I wrinkle my nose.- and I thought that to mean that we had a mutual thing, and that if we give each other a chance, maybe blah blah blah ..."
Who wants to deal with that, if they can avoid it. Complicated and embarassing for a two days vacation fling wth an attractive out of towner, seen that by and large these are spur of the moments things borm from and based on a transient physical pull.
So, yes, he has not been considerate but.... forgive him anyway and move on, things like this happen all the time, you'll get over it quite soon, I promise :).
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 February 2014):
I'm afraid that he was just a holiday fling, and when it came down to it, he just wasn't interested enough that he wanted to meet again. You're right, he was just rude at the end of it. And maybe he just didn't reply because he either didn't want to tell you, or just was that cold.
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