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writes: At the moment, I'm feeling so low as I seem to have so many problems and so much stress, and to make it worse I've just split from my boyfriend.I can't express how much I loved him, but somewhere something went wrong, and we couldnt carry on being in a relationship together. My heart is broken into a million pieces.. Please, any advice on how to get over your ex would be extremley helpful. Thank you so much for reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Cry. Write in your journal. Take hot bubble baths. Soak your feet. Different things.
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reader, Cosy  +, writes (12 March 2008):
I just find that crying helps... a big big sob every once in a while does make one feel better.
And just pull all your friends closer, explain to them that you need them to keep you busy so you can take your mind off him and do fun things.
It's really horrible and really hard, it will get better but it will be difficult and you have to be strong to make it so.
And I agree, make sure you eat! And got to bed early so you have more chance of getting to sleep at a good hour!
Good luck, let me know if you want to chat,
xxxx
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reader, CorpusDei +, writes (12 March 2008):
 A hard breakup is a harsh thing to experience. I think I can speak for most of the people here when I say that I've been there too. What will help? Time, primarily. Time to get some distance, to help you sort through all these confused and conflicting emotions. Time to let that him-shaped hold in your heart start to heal.But in the meantime, as tempting as it is, do _not_ just sit home, eat ice cream and listen to Chris Isaak cds. It's not going to help much. Involve yourself in something. Check your local community center to see if there is a program that you can volunteer with. The biggest thing, though, number one on the list is start getting regular and vigorous exercise. It will give you a way to channel that emotional turmoil, you'll get in better shape and you're self-image will improve, and best of all, exercise raises the level of endorphins in your system. So, bottom line, engage yourself in activities and hit the gym. More than anything else, that will help you ride this out until time can start making things better.
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reader, Arcada +, writes (12 March 2008):
I have also been through the same thing. For a month I couldn't eat or sleep and this makes the whole proccess even worse.I can recommend a fantastic book called, "I can mend your broken heart", by Paul Mckenna.It's brilliant and really helped me!Talk with friends, be around people that care, read stuff on this site, message me if you want.Take care of yourself.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): I know exactly what you are going thro honey and my heart goes out to you. I was with my boyf for 8 years when we split. Sadly we just grew apart and wanted very different things in life and although we still loved each other we weren't right for each other at that point in our life.All I can say is to keep busy, go out with your friends, make new ones, take up new sports/hobbies and have fun and if need be avoid the places you know your ex will be. Your friends will be a great help during this horrible time also. You are not alone, you won't feel like this for long. I thought that I would never get over my ex, but I did and its been 3 years now since we split and I've met a new wonderful guy now when I wasn't looking to meet anyone new. I've just learned from past mistakes, and to look to the future and smile again - something I thought I would never do again :) Good luck x
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reader, Toolman +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Hi!
I am so sorry to hear that - I am going through exactly the same thing :((((( I split up with my girlfriend on the 1st March - We were going out with one another for over 6 years.......
The only thing I can say is you are not alone. I feel slightly better now than I did last week and have had more fun this week but I still miss my ex-girlfriend. It is horrid to think she doesn't want to be with me :(
I went through a few days of not eating which made things worse as the horrid feeling in my stomach was amplified by hunger pains........So, make sure you EAT! :)
Keep busy, that has helped me - I have tried to be out every night.
Take care, John :)
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