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anonymous
writes:My guy is making me seriously ill...Ok so i met these guy on fb(i knoww) when i was 17... i have very controlling parents so i was always a straight A's student, didnt drink, rarely went out.. now im 18 and he's 22.. he is the typical "bad boy type"... we have been going out since more than a year already but he never asked me to be his girlfriend.. he says it brings too many "complications" so i agreed... however i fell for him deeply and he has always make me feel like im not good enough for him...I recently got a contract in a modeling agency and have had very nice guys interested in me over time.. but i just cant seem to leave him and he treats me like crap. i have deleted him from everywhere (fb, msn, bbm) but i always keep coming back 2 him... maybe cause he was my first love and the guy i lost my virginty to.. The thing is now im suffering from anorexia because i want him to feel of proud of me (he once told me i was fat and ugly, event though i'm a model) i keep waiting for him to change and try to be the best i can (give him his space, dont ask him any explanations) and he just keeps playing the hot and cold game i honestly dont know what to do.my anorexia is getting badd i purged everyday and started smoking... Why am I not good enough for him?? If he's obviously attracted to me, why out of nowhere he starts treating me like crap????? please helpp!!
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reader, breeanna.87  +, writes (21 February 2011):
if you cant change him, exchange him.
you WILL find a boy who loves you for YOU!!
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reader, Thisdizzle  +, writes (21 February 2011):
Things you need to acknowledge: he only wants to get in your pants.You need help beating your anorexia (family).You must break any and all contact with him and his friends.He will not change. He will NOT change.That last one is a biggie. The thought of taking somebody and changing them for the better is appealing, arrogant, and false. He's not worth your time. Look for someone better rather than trying to work with what you have (which isn't that great).
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reader, fishdish +, writes (20 February 2011):
 You can't use this guy as a crutch for your own mental illness. You say he is MAKING you ill, but it sounds like you are prone to self-destructive behavior (first him verbally abusing you, then you physically abusing yourself). The best thing you could do is talk to someone you are close with--not this man, but maybe a parent, a mentor in the business who has to deal with women with eating disorders all the time. If you can, take some time off from modeling. I'm sure your career is just taking off, but if it's meant to be, you will be able to do it even better when you're healthy. Good luck.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (20 February 2011):
 Sweetie, it has nothing to do with you not being good enough for him. In all honesty, he's not good enough for you. This is a bad relationship, he is a controlling person, and it makes him feel good to put you down. You must realize this. I know its hard to walk away when you love someone, but certainly you can see what he is doing to you, right? I can't urge you strongly enough to seek medical attention! PLEASE! Go to a doctor, get a counselor before you become so ill that you can't function. Anorexia kills. Please break away from this man and be the strong confident woman that I know you can be. Obviously you must be quite pretty to be a model, so don't let him tell you that you are fat or ugly. He's cruel, and you deserve far far better. PLEASE get help!
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