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writes:Heyy So basically I just wanted to know what you guys think this means. I told one of my guy friends (who we got a bit of a thing going on) that I was going out drinking with a friend and he was like why you going out? Where you going and who with? I am just worried about you. After I told him he became withdrawn and wouldn't talk to me. I asked him what was wrong, he said that he feels that its his fault I m going out. I reassured him it wasn't and that I'd text him to let him know I m alright. I completely forgot to text him and the next morning he sent me a text asking where the text was. I told him him I was sorry and that I forgot, he said he was worried so I told him I was sorry again but he just replied back and sad face. I asked what was wrong and he said he felt like a dick because he felt like he was having a go at me. I told him he wasn't and not to be silly but he kept replying back that he was sorry. I asked him if he was alright and he said he was fine. I met him later that day and asked him again if he was alright, he said he was and said he was worried about me and changed the subject. Before I left I gave he a hug and it felt like he didn't want to let go. I ve never seen him that upset before but we never discussed the extent of our 'relationship' at the start it was just a bit of fun nothing too serious (but we've never had sex) but I don't know what he/I feel nowI am sorry if it's confusing, thank you :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 August 2013):
 I think it just means he was concerned about the possibility of you going out and maybe hooking up with guys ( or the friend you went out with if we are talking about a male friend ) .
Come on,normally " a bit of a fun thing " does not stay sex free forever at your age . This guy maybe is not pushing it, but I am pretty sure that in the back of his mind he's waiting for further developments. To him, it would be very galling to have the first newcomer who shows up snatch effortlessy under his nose what he has been patiently waiting for !
So, yes he is being territorial- he is being a male. If that also means that he is developping feelings for you, doubtful. Perhaps, but definitely not a given.
As IAmHereToHelpYou says, you should ASK . If you are comfortable enough with him to share intimacies, you should also be comfortable enough to sharre what's on your mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): I have a close guy friend who gets worried about me and protective of me even though we're not romantically involved (we are both married to other people). He is like that with everyone he is close with, not just me. But he's especially protective of his female friends and family members because that's just his nature to be a protector to those he feels are more vulnerable than he is. I think it's sweet, but it definitely does not mean anything romantically.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 August 2013):
Hi there. Actually, it seems pretty clear to me.
Although you have been good friends up until now, and have not had sex, and have also not talked about the status of your relationship, I definitely can see that more feelings have developed on his part.
And this became abundantly clear the other night, when he knew you were going out for drinks with a friend of yours.
He asked who you were going out with - which means he wondered if it was another man.
He would not be concerned if he didn't have feelings for you.
And then he felt embarrassed by his own behaviour.
And by him asking you about it, indicates he thought you could be looking for someone else.
Or seeing someone else.
Even though you and him are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend at this point.
And then he went all strange on you, and acting awkward because he thought he had overstepped the mark of friendship and becoming possessive, just by his asking these questions.
So there you have it.
The real question now, is do you like him enough to be his girlfriend?
I think it is now time for you to talk about this together, and get it all out in the open - once and for all.
And the sooner the better.
You both need to be on the same page, and this requires complete honesty from you both.
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