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writes:Will someone please understand where I went wrong and what I did what was wrong? I have dumped my girlfriend because yet again she is on dating sites. She is not letting it go and is behaving like I have done her the greatest injustice for leaving after catching her for at least the tenth time. She in the past has lied, blamed me for her joining dating and adult sex hook up sites, and will not discuss why she goes on them or why she thinks it's my fault. She is extremely angry and has sworn revenge on me. If I had joined dating sites like she did, then I know she would have seen things all different. Why is she like this when she knew what would happen if I caught her again?
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reader, Dmagicp  +, writes (7 May 2015):
Google borderline personality disorder. My girlfriend did the same thing to me and had me going crazy. I thank God that I now know the truth. After learning about how these women operate you will be able to walk away with a clear conscience.
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reader, SumGuy +, writes (24 January 2013):
I am under the understanding that you have caught her on dating sites more than once? Where did you go wrong? You gave her the message you are soft and gave her the chance to do it again. That is where you went wrong. Break all contact and do not bother looking for closure or waste your time thinking about it/her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 January 2013):
 you didn't do anything wrong other than try to make it work with a woman who can't keep it in her skirt.
she is behaving badly now because she's mad at herself for getting caught.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING TO END IT.
just block her on the phone, email and social media. LIKE SHE'S DEAD. IGNORE HER
move on. this too shall pass. and you will be the victor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2013): She expects the relationship to be all one sided (everything to go her way), and when it doesn't, she throws her tantrums like a child. The reason she puts the blame on you for her indiscretions is because she's not grown up enough to take the blame herself. She sounds like a very selfish and twisted child in an adults body.
You should do better for yourself and leave her to seal her own doom.
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reader, Jeanette82 +, writes (22 January 2013):
 I have been in your situation and seen exactly the same behaviour and reactions. It`s no use asking why she is like that, because with people like that, you will never find out or get the closure you are hoping for. She`s probably still active on the dating sites now, even though she knows the damage it`s caused. She will probably still want to get back with you too. Forget her.
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reader, R1 +, writes (22 January 2013):
 She is being defensive as no one wants to be in the wrong.You know in your heart you can't stay with a girl who cheats on you (going on dating sites counts as cheating). Stay strong you've done the hard bit ending it, things will get easier with time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2013): Agreed with the other two posts. You did the right thing, she is probably just upset she got caught again. Im really sorry you had to go through that, my bf has done thw same thing for nearly 3 years, stopped for awhile, then started. I wish I knew why. I guess you never really understand it. Hes gotten better about it and its been almost 6 months so Im hoping... I wish I were stronger. You didnt do anything wrong. Hopefully your next girl will treat you the way you deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2013): She has a problem and she is in the wrong and she is now being held accountable for her actions. When you are in a relationship with someone you do not go on dating sites, you do not chat with strangers, you do not engage in any of that behavior...she was not in the relationship 100%....you are not to blame for this AT ALL....there are no excuses or justifications for cheating on your partner. Period. The end.
I'm sorry this happened to you, but it's better you found out now...move on, lose her number and don't continue communicating with her at all, no matter how hard she tries...don't take the bait. Find someone who is totally into YOU, not you and in case something else is better...
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (22 January 2013):
She sounds very much like she has some kind of narcissistic disorder. Do not answer her calls or texts. No contact would be better. She will soon forget you when she meets someone else. Types like her usually do, and very quickly. You will always be the bad guy in her mind.
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 January 2013):
 You did the right thing in dumping her, and no you have done nothing wrong atal. She is completely in the wrong and she knows it, and as a result is blaming you in an attempt to make herself feel better. The trust has completely gone in this relationship, and trust in one of the most important factors that hold a relationship together. she is in the wrong and has sworn revenge on you, think she needs her head tested. good ridance to bad rubbish i say, forget about her now and move on.
Good luck
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (22 January 2013):
 Perhaps that's why she did it. For you catch her out and cause a scene maybe she was waiting for a reaction off you or maybe she just wanted a way out of the relationship and wanted you to be made out to be the bad guy.
This is despite her being the one on dating sites and sex sites.
If she wants to stay on these sites then she shouldn't get into a relationship. From what you've said you've not done anything wrong and you're right if it was the other way around she'd probably cause you hell.
As i said previous perhaps she done this in order to get a reaction from you or to get you to end it so she's made out to be the hurt party. She could easily turn around and say you made it up and you were the one on the websites not her.
She shouldn't be angry you should tell her why you angry? you've got plenty of dating sites to be playing on.
CMMP is right cut contact with her if she pursues any further contact then tell her if she continues you'll get police involved scare her out of it.
She's probably just trying to guilt trip you anyways by saying she'll get revenge i doubt she will she knows she's wrong and just wants it to be made out that you're the nasty one.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (22 January 2013):
Where did you go wrong?
The minute you met her! She's a lying, manipulative, b-tch.
Stop blaming yourself and start patting yourself on the back for being smart enough to dump her.
Now you just need to stop talking to her.
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