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writes:i feel really bad and unimportant to my stepmom, she's the one i live with my dad and my 2 full blood brothers and i have 2 stepbrothers. i'm the only girl but when it comes to calling each other i take them all as my brothers and treat them all the same, i try to do things like chores around the house as best as i can every time but i get tired at times coz i have to repeat doing the same chore, coz my lil brothers mess it up like cleaning the dining room. One is 7 and the other one is 10 years old it really irritates me and i don't like putting my hands on kids coz i love them so much but sometime my brothers can be demanding how do i deal with all that? i really have no idea what to do, if i make a complaint to her that my lil borther's doing something that i don't like all she does is tell him to stop but she doesn't seem to be taking anything too seriously. then again when i ask my mom to buy me something she's always moody, so i asked her to buy me text books for my year 11 classes for this term after new year and i'm still waiting for them, it's been 2 full weeks now and i need them to do my holiday homework for all the classes i have but she still hasn't bought them i don't get why not. today she took my 10 year old brother to the shops and bought him an Ipad 2 but not my books and that's really making me feel worse, because all i'm thinking of right now is that she doesn't care about my education. i even told my dad first before her after we went on holidays that i wanted books and he sent me to her. please help me if you can i don't know what to do anymore :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): It sounds like you're the oldest child in the family? The oldest is often taken for granted while all the attention and spoiling is heaped on the younger ones especially if they are a lot younger. That sucks but is common unfortunately. Ask your dad and mom together when they are both in the same room that way they cant just pass the buck to each other.
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reader, belleh +, writes (23 January 2013):
belleh is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks i think that might just help me and i really appreciate the advice thank you so much sugarplum :)
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (22 January 2013):
 Honey, it sounds like you are feeling neglected and unappreciated. I suggest if you have good relationship with the step mom, ask her for time and try talking to on a one on one basis. Also ask her if it will be easier if she gives you the money and you can either get the books yourself or ask a friend.
If the above fails, you need to have a serious talk with your dad, without undermining your stepp mom.
Maybe tell your dad you are willing to get your own things so it does not inconvenience anyone and you would appreciate it if they give you the money to buy the books. Also explain to your dad that with the studies you will assist by cleaning the place once for the day and its unfair to continously clean the same place as the little kids should be thought discipline. Also it does not give you time to study nor do homework.
Good luck, dont despair, you are almost out of schooling and could get into a univeristy and ask to board out rather than stay with your parents.
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