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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. We are both divorced, have our own kids and save for a minor hiccup in our relationship this past January we have a good strong bond. Each morning when we are waking up at our own places, she sends me a text saying good morning. We talk in the morning on the way to work, text on and off during the day and again talk on the way home. At night time we will either have a brief call or will text each other to say goodnight. The thing however that strikes me odd, is that whenever she goes to visit her mother, I never get a "good morning " text from her and I will usually not hear anything from her for most of her trip. Now I know some will think that she's just getting away and that I should let her have some space. The issue that I have is that her Mom doesn't think we should be dating. It's not that her Mom dislikes me, it has to do with the fact that her Mom feels she should be single because of the horrible relationship my gf was in before we dated, and that my gf should focus all over her attention and energy on her kids.This is her third trip to her Mom's since we have been together and again it's been another weekend of not hearing much from her. Should I just let her have space to enjoy time with her family and take a couple days of being ignored a bit, or should I ask her about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2013): Its good that you decide to give her space, but weird she doesnt txt you or call. So here is my opinion. So you dont make her feel like you are doubting her, txt her saying "good morning" or "are you ok? Just making sure". That way she will know you are just checking up on her. If she doesnt reply then call.if she doesnt answer you shouls tell her "i know you are enjoying time with your mom but i would like it if you checked up on me just to make sure your ok. Good luck
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (10 June 2013):
 If everything is going well between you I can’t see why you don’t ask her? Admittedly this week-end oddity of hers is curious even with positive speculation… But it’s far from being an inquisition if you were to simply bring this up and ask her about it?
Cheers – CAA
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (9 June 2013):
Hi there. It really seems like the reason your girlfriend doesn't contact you when she visits her mother, is that it has to do with the fact that her mother thinks she shouldn't be dating.
And of course, that is because of her previous experience in a bad relationship - before she met you.
And so her mother, just doesn't want to see her daughter get hurt yet again.
And so your girlfriend doesn't text or call you while she is staying at her mother's, so that her mother doesn't start nagging her about it, and then to spoil her daughter's visit with her.
Because if she did start contacting you, she would then start arguing with her mother - which she really doesn't want to do - and so it is just easier all round, if she avoids it altogether.
And I can understand that.
And honestly, I really believe that that is all it is, and nothing more.
Your girlfriend just wants peace, while visiting her mother, and so she just stops contact with you, until she is on her way home again.
So please don't take it personally, because it isn't anything you ought to be worried about.
Your girlfriend is simply trying to make her visit with her mother as comfortable and happy as possible.
And in so doing, she most likely doesn't even talk about you either, just so she doesn't get nagged about it again.
I mean, who wants to be nagged about a relationship by your mother?
It is just NOT worth it.
Life is way too short to be unhappy, don't you agree?
Because otherwise, everything is great between you, isn't it?
So, I really believe that that is all it is.
Keeping the peace with her mother, and nothing more.
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