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writes:my girlfriend over heard me telling someone i still love an ex tho i know this must have hurt her feelings i dont know how to tell her i love her in a sisterly way and im not in love with her.i love my girlfriend more than anything and im now scared of loosing her what can i do or say to make her realize she is the only one for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everone i shall heed you advice, hope it all works out.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (18 September 2007):
 tell her the same well you have just said it though. tell her the truth, tell her you don't want to lose her and it was a silly misunderstanding.
good luck xxxx
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reader, brokenshadow  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 Tell her the same way you told us!! Heck, show her the post! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): oh my days. thats a bit of a nightmare isnt it? luckily for you it is fixable! ;-)
try to see it from your girlfriends point of you. the shock of hearing that must've half killed her! she wont know what to think now and will not be sure of your feelings for her. you need to put that straight. you need to sit her down and give her your complete 100% undivided attention : switch your phone off, switch the tv off and just talk to her.
tell her how much she means to you and all the feelings you have for her, then tell her you still care for your ex but not in the same way that you used to and definitely not in the same way you care for your girlfriend. explain that you love your girlfriend more than anything and there is absolutely nobody else you would want to be with. thats the thing about love - when your in love with someone NOBODY else compares to them and nobody else will do. so hopefully your gf will see that if you were IN LOVE with your ex, you would want to be with her and nobody else. but your not with her, shes your ex and she's your ex for a reason. i actually think it shows maturity and i think it can be turned to a good thing that you still have some feelings for your ex. i mean there is nothing attractive about a man who says he loves you needs you etc etc then the second its over he hates you and calls you every name under the sun.
the only way out of it is constant reassurance, and if you still have contact with your ex try to stay away from that for a while - it will do nothing to help your girlfriends insecurity and paranoia about your feelings for her.
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