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writes:I have a girlfriend I've been with since May and we had been messing around for about 8 months before that. We were supposed to be messing with only each other but she messed with someone else. Then she asks to be friends with him. I told her no. Would I be wrong if I said I didn't trust her and what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Honestly you should sit down with her and talk to her about this and ask her if she would ever do anything with this guy again and see what she says. it sounds to me like you two was kind of together before but not really and if thats the case then she is pretty much a cheater and you should not stay with her any longer..no it would not be wrong for you to tell her you dont trust her but if you said that and thats the way you feel then why would you want to be with someone you do not trust?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): If she wants to be with you then she should definately stop seeing this guy! If she was tempted once then she could do again. She has already betrayed your trust and needs to earn it back. If she is really sorry then she will agree to keep a distance from him. If she protests too much then it doesnt seem like she particualy wants the two of you to work.
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reader, Dream_Girl +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I think maybe you should talk to her about it. If she did it while you two weren't actually together than I can see where she's coming from. Tell her that you have a hard time trusting her because of it but you're willing to try to trust her again.
Do you hang around your exs or people you've hooked up with?
Also ask her to be honest about whether or not she has feelings about this guy.
If she wants to be friends with him that badly try to meet him and maybe even become friends with him yourself.
I know you must be extremely uncomfortable with this situation.
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