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My girlfriend loves someone else, shoul I break up with her?

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Question - (1 April 2008) 9 Answers - (Newest, 21 July 2008)
A male Ghana age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have been with my gf for over 4 years, recently my gf meet a guy and had a serious crush on him, the guy knowing definately well that the girl has fallen for him has inturn started playing with my gf minds, now it seems she love him. we have talked about this issue together with the boy in question and my gf decided that she still wants to keep me hence she wouldn't have anything to do with the guy.

Recently i have discovered that there are still going out at my back. i do not know what to do, i need some abvice on this. should i leave my girlfriend for the guy or what. she is claiming she doesn'nt want to lose me and that she loves me, how can a girl love two people at the same time.

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A male reader, bailey123123 United Kingdom +, writes (21 July 2008):

Its really up to you but if i was like you with my girlfriend i would call it the end of the relationship because it is basically like cheating on you if she likes someone else. So if i was you i would call it the end.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008):

i think that she cares about you but it's pretty apparent that she has strong feelings for this other guy. you should brake it off with her and if it's meant to be she'll come back around.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008):

Just have another talk with her, move out of the city and start your life somewhere else where she hasn't got the seduction.

Put your pride aside and go for the long term.

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A female reader, x-kitycatlok-x United Kingdom +, writes (1 April 2008):

x-kitycatlok-x agony auntLeave her! If she's seeing someone else it's considered cheating. If she hasn't given her heart to you completely then I'd leave her. You deserved to be loved whole-heartedly by her. Who knows what she could do with this other man she loves? She could end up sleeping with him behind your back. If you have faith in her and have no problems with her seeing someone else, then don't break up with her, but if you're having to take advice it sounds like you're unsure. I'd leave her.

Wish you the best

xx

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (1 April 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntGirls over there are smart and they have a few b/f's to get

many things in life which one b/f cannot give.

If you don't want to be just her sugar daddy,

then find the girl who only loves you .

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008):

Get out.

You're being cheated on. Admit it to yourself.

Even if your GF isn't having sex with him (yet), she is definitely being emotionally unfaithful already. Hence, she's trying to keep it a secret.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008):

Get out!!! In my opinion you should get out now...I was recently in a very, very similar situation and mine ended with her essentially cheating on me, toying with my emotions, and leading me on for months. Eventually, she just dumped me for the new guy. My ex-told me the same thing that she didn't wanna loose me and that she loved me, so I stayed with her...bad move for me. I think you should get out. If a person truly loves you, then they shouldn't be going out and "testing the waters" with another guy.

Every situation is different though. If you do want to "win" her back, do what kerri says, be very romantic and try and think/do what made her fall in love with you the first time.

Good luck!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008):

Get out of that relationship! She is causing problems for the two of you and you're better off alone!

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A female reader, KeRrI117 United Kingdom +, writes (1 April 2008):

KeRrI117 agony auntOnce your in a relationship with someone who loves soeone else you will rarely get the love back if i was in your shoes i wouldnt stay with her i wouldnt come second best to anyone im sorry but i wouldnt. i suppose it is up to you but if you want to try and win her love back the best way to do it is be romantic with her alot Good Luck!

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